staying single vs. dating

I've felt that way in the past yes.


However I've noticed that my BP doesn't nearly affect my relationship and my mental stability as much as my BPD does when in a romantic relationship.

Case in point, I was single for a year and convinced that I was basically cured of BPD.

Maybe my BP doesn't cause issues because my bf has known me for forever, knows I'm a crazy rollercoaster and has always accepted me regardless, or maybe its because he suffers from severe depressive episodes as well.


Well its actually probably a bit of both.


So we have a good understanding of each other's needs during extreme mood states and emotional instability.


My BPD however directly attacks our relationship and has caused huge challenges over the years.


But since I have a pretty good handle on it now and he is more clued up about it, it hasn't posed any real threat to us, except for in my head.


I'm still diligently working on that in therapy and with him.


My relationship has helped to keep me grounded and anchored, because my bf and I balance each other out. I really can't say the same for the last one though, because that was an abusive toxic mess that lasted way too long.


I think that if we can find the right fit, then a healthy balanced relationship is possible, regardless of what statistics say.


Especially since 65% of all statistics are made up on the spot!

I can see where a personality disorder thrown into the mix can add to the chaos. I have dated a lot of men with NPD.(i think)

That does not work well with bipolar. When they get violent verbally, it does not mix well with my turbulence.