[WibblyWobbly]

I've been living with my mom and sister since January and they are saying they're burned out. They want me to go to a residential facility for three or four months. ***TW*** I told them I would rather die than do that.

In the last year and a half I have been IP 6 times (including during Christmas and New Years) and I'm on my 4th PHP. I just started with an awesome t about 6 weeks ago and I'm scheduled to start a trauma recovery group in a couple weeks. I'm doing the best that I can. I lost my job and my boyfriend of 12 years who I am still desperately in love with. I'm not on disability because I'm a totally functional person. I'm tired of having my treatment dictated by other people and my freedoms stripped away. I feel like the progress I've made has been ignored.

Sorry, I really had to vent. Has anyone been? What would it take to convince you to go?

[BeyondtheRainbow]

I haven't been.

I don't know what it would take to make me go. At first I thought nothing and then I thought that this illness has made me do so many things I never thought I would/could do. So probably at this point if my therapist or pdoc suggested it I would go. But I have a 10 year relationship with my therapist and 13 years with my pdoc so I have a strong foundation for trust. Even though I live next door to my mom and she helps me out (a lot lately) I would not decide based on something she said unless the professionals agreed.

[LettinG0]

I was so desperately ill at the end of last year that I wanted residential treatment. I actually went to one but four days in discovered my insurance would not pay and had to leave.

The pdoc at the facility had decided that I did not need residential tx just IOP. Which I think bites. If I had had a dual diagnosis (ie an addiction or eating disorder, etc) I would have qualified. That still irks me.

Anyway, my stay was brief but I really liked the facility and its approach. I think it would have done me a lot of good if I had been able to stay.

I'm sorry you are being forced to consider it when you obviously want no part of it. I hope you find a viable solution for your situation. Hugs.

[WibblyWobbly]

Originally Posted by LettinG0

I was so desperately ill at the end of last year that I wanted residential treatment. I actually went to one but four days in discovered my insurance would not pay and had to leave.

The pdoc at the facility had decided that I did not need residential tx just IOP. Which I think bites. If I had had a dual diagnosis (ie an addiction or eating disorder, etc) I would have qualified. That still irks me.

Anyway, my stay was brief but I really liked the facility and its approach. I think it would have done me a lot of good if I had been able to stay.

I'm sorry you are being forced to consider it when you obviously want no part of it. I hope you find a viable solution for your situation. Hugs.

It kills me that insurance doesn't care if you keep winding up IP or worse. I understand it's just a business to them but I'm in PHP right now and I'm seeing people being discharged who are clearly in a horrible state. If they made the investment now they would save money in the long term. One of my concerns is going into residential and having my time approved 5 days at a time. I would feel better about it if they approved it in larger chunks, like a month at a time. I need stability badly right now.

Your post makes me realize that I'm actually desperate for help. I looked at some of the programs near me and a few had equine therapy. If I had researched it on my own I might have brought it up myself. I'm resistant because my family dictates my therapy and every move I make. My mom even opens my mail and hides checks from me because she's worried about my impulse shopping. I'm 34. There has to be some kind of compromise.

[WibblyWobbly]

Originally Posted by BeyondtheRainbow

I haven't been.

I don't know what it would take to make me go. At first I thought nothing and then I thought that this illness has made me do so many things I never thought I would/could do. So probably at this point if my therapist or pdoc suggested it I would go. But I have a 10 year relationship with my therapist and 13 years with my pdoc so I have a strong foundation for trust. Even though I live next door to my mom and she helps me out (a lot lately) I would not decide based on something she said unless the professionals agreed.

Thanks for this. My t and pdoc aren't in the loop yet since I'm in PHP right now. If my family keeps pushing it I'll ask for their opinions. My pdoc has treated me IP 3 times and in PHP twice. I trust him with my life. I've only been with my t for a couple months twice a week but she's the first t I've had who taught me coping skills and noticed dissociation and walked me through grounding. I feel very bonded to her since we've started trauma work for the first time in my life.

[michbear]

i would be convinced to go if everyone in my life like family and friends would give me more independence and would stop telling me what i should do and let me be me