Ever been called needy because of your illness?

I have been called needy so many times by family mostly because I see a psychiatrist and soon....a psychologist. They tell me I need to just move on with life and forget about what happened to me. I was diagnosed DID a few years ago but had it since age 8. My mom keeps telling me I'm the neediest person there is, just because I seek counseling. Also my bipolar they say is in my head and that I'm needy for seeing a psychiatrist. Personally, I don't see how I'm needy. I'm just ill.

You're not needy. You have an illness that they either don't or don't want to understand. You sought help which is a good thing. It's going to take time and work just to heal. It's not going to go away by sheer willpower alone.

I'm sorry to hear how your family is treating you. You deserve better than that.

Mind over matter is what I hear most. It's all in your head is exactly the problem lol. We don't want it there anymore

hahaha yes we don't want it there anymore.

No. I have never been called needy.

I am always being called needy by my family of origin. I'm constantly ridiculed and told that mental illness is made up. I just wish they could walk in my shoes for one day.

I can't remember being called needy but I have certainly felt needy many times.

No, I've never been called needy. Not sure if part of that might be having learned early and thoroughly not to ask for anything though. That's not a good thing, as it has made it very hard to ask even when I desperately need something.

I've never been called needy.

But in a way I guess I kind of feel like I am needy.

You're not needy.

I've never been told I am needy person. One person would tell me I act helpless at times. They would ask me to do somethings and I'd sit speechless and then get overwhelmed at times. I just couldn't process it all because it was several task being given plus a deadline. I had to educate them on the cognitive dysfunction I deal with and how it affects me. There a bit more patient now.

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My parents never specifically used the word needy, but my mom's told me countless of times that I need to stop being so dependent on other people.

i've not been called needy directly, but people think it (or some do)

rather.. they think if things don't go my way, their's gonna be a major meltdown and stuff.

which i don't like

just as bad as being called needy in my eyes

I haven't been called needy, but I often feel like I am. Or could be rather. I don't ask for help even if I really need it. I'm always afraid people will hate me, so I just keep it to myself. It's probably not the best thing to do. Sometimes I do need help.

Sounds like your mother isn't exactly there for you, and maybe that is the one thing you really 'need'.
I do feel 'needy' sometimes especially when I felt down, I needed someone to hug me.

That's true. Luckily lately I've been surrounding myself with people at a church I go to now (never went to church since parents made me) and a woman there cried over me. It was so healing.

I need to allow myself to be more needy..........

I try to confine as much of my talk about bipolar to psych central as I can, to avoid disturbing my family members or overly relying on them. I try not to be needy although sometimes it's impossible because I do have needs.

Things my abusers (parents & siblings) used to say to me:

- You're too needy
- You're too sensitive
- You care too much
- You try too hard
- You make me hate you
- Crybaby
- Hush or I'm going to give you something to cry about

Often these abusive insults were viciously hurled at me after
they'd already brutalized me to my breaking point ...

EFF THEM!

So toadally empowering to be able to say that & pfeel no guilt or shame about it whatsoever!

Good for you for having boundaries. I need to do that soon, but unfortunately I rely on them for money.

I've never been called needy, but have been accused of being the opposite.
An ex once told me that the Simon & Garfunkel song "I am a rock" had to have been written about me.

I have been called needy, and I admit I have been. But I also have borderline so that may have been part of it as well.

Inherent in this charge of "neediness" is the idea that you have no legitimate needs. It is a way of invalidating your condition as if it were somehow less "real" than a visible or more intuitively understandable physical disorder. I chalk that attitude up to ignorance. I mean the brain is an organ just like the heart and you don't hear people disparaging people with heart conditions as "needy." Your family may not know what to do about to help you, in which case they need to know what you need is not fixing but support. If they are unwilling to try to understand then you will have to find help elsewhere. It's too bad it has to be that way.