[angrycats]

Hi, I need advice here please .
My 14 year old daughter ran away half an hour ago and we're trying to decide what to do.

Some points:
1. She's bipolar and has been having a bad week of us all telling her to do her homework
2. We live in a safe neighborhood with no public buses
3. She has her phone and we can track the phone's location
4. She left a note saying "I'm sorry I wasn't what you wanted"
5. She called her best friend to tell her the plan
6. She's a petite 14 year old girl and there are evil people out there

Should we let her stay out for a few hours until she realizes that it's not a good plan or should we go pick her up and drag her home?

What would be best?
Thanks

[HALLIEBETH87]

Personally I'd show her I love her by going abd getting her

[Cat_Lover_58]

I'd go get her if it were me. I have 2 daughters. I think she'll be happy you did. Maybe not now, but later. Best of luck, Cat

[12AM]

I suggest to get her back, for you are right there are evil people out there, but not by dragging, Geez. Tell her you are sorry for anything you did that PUSHED her to ran away from home. Be more gentle to her please, family SUPPORT plays important roles in treating any mental illness, specially for teenagers. Learn more about your daughter and her illness, even doing a homework that sounds easy for you could be the most difficult task for your daughter. "I'm sorry I wasn't what you wanted" imagine how she feels when she is writing this, I can tell she loves her family, MAKE SURE she knows that she is loved as well, unconditionally.

[~Christina]

Go find her and just say I love you and we will do whatever we need to so you feel better, safer, and just plain loved .

Bipolar simple warps our perception of how we " think" others think and feel about us.

I hope she's okay an willing to work through the hell that Bipolar can certainly be

Has she been found yet? I hope so.

[Imah]

I don't know your situation. But children do need to be shown love through action. Find her.

I do believe our government controls the public school system. It is a very old establishment set up by men who think a certain way and become politicians. Decade after decade we teach the same core subjects. Slowly using less and less teachers for more and more children. Making the children sit still longer. Cutting recesses and anything imaginative. Control, control, control.

When my 13 year old son told me he skipped out of school again because he knew he was dumb. It caused him to burst into tears to really share with me that fact that he KNEW he was a second class, low rate, go no where DUMB, waste of life, useless, pointless IDIOT that everyone at school believed him to be. I took him out of school that very hour. No more public school. I was working at the time, but I knew he needed to be nurtured differently then public school could offer. We ended up going to K12. They sent a computer to our home, along with the curriculum. Its a great program that is growing. It is still school. You do still get a Diploma if you graduate. It is simply the school program done at home. It is offered in many states. Google K12.

We are not some big success story with our home schooling. Because I didn't try hard enough, and I wasn't strong enough to really expect him to do the K12 work, he ended up getting a GED instead of a HS Diploma. But we are a success as far as how he learned to view himself. It took us a few years to unlearn what society had taught my ADHD child.

Unlike me, he never did drugs. He doesn't drink. He likes himself. He is beginning to achieve goals he sets out. He doesn't have illegitimate children. He is thankfully, still unattached at 23. He is strong, handsome and growing. Living out of the home, paying his own way.

Public school isn't the answer for everyone. And life is so hard and demanding for us as parents - especially in the changing economy. We have this pace - this agenda. This business of family. Not everyone can keep up, and they don't have to. Being in the business of family is not living.

Talk to her. More importantly - listen to her. She is young, but she is a breath away from adulthood in the most traumatizing and dangerous years.

Best of luck to you all, my heart reaches out to all of you.

[marmaduke]

I'd go and get her.
I dont belive in homework tho!

Mostly I belive school work should be kept in school.

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[Wander]

Just want you to know I am thinking of you and I hope you have your daughter back safely soon.

[scatterbrained04]

Just want you to know I'm thinking about you. I hope you can find your daughter.

Our minds make us believe things that are untrue. She's probably feeling like everyone would be better off without her. I know I ran away quite a bit as a teen just to clear my head, but I would always go home after a few hours. Let her know you love her. Keep us posted.

[HALLIEBETH87]

Hoping you got her snd she is home safe. <3

[Hashi/bipolar mom]

I would go get her and tell her you love her. Teen years are hard and then adding BP to it, it's even harder. Did you find her?

[Unrigged64072835]

Hoping you found her and she's safe.