[Moreta]

So my husband graduated from Wake Forest University with an MBA in September, and he still hasn't found a job. I send him links for jobs to apply to and he just procrastinates about it. It's really starting to frustrate me. I have no idea what his problem is. I don't think he applied to a job all week.

Another thing that is bothering me is that, besides my mom, nobody calls me. Apparently the only way I can talk to people is if I initiate it. Makes me feel bad that nobody even checks on me. Apparently my only friend is my husband. I guess everyone is too busy with their lives to even call me. At least I get emails from my therapist checking on me.

[wiretwister]

cheer up ... you could be getting calls and e mails from bill collectors ...

at summer camp they alway said ... you got to write them to get them ...

[Ocean Swimmer]

Does your husband have depression. Or just fear of the job market?
Do you work outside the home? I sometimes made friends with work colleagues.
How about neighbors? Is there some possibility of friendship there?

I do volunteer work with orphan kittens. I made friends with the lady that brings me the animals.

I'm friends with some of my parents friends.

[Moreta]

I don't know if my husband has depression or not.

I don't work, I just stay home most days. My neighbors keep to themselves. I don't think volunteer work would work out because i'm so non functional and tired all day.

Yeah, my friends are the same way. They don't talk to me unless I initiate. I think it's because I no longer see them every week. I mean, we became friends in the first place because we saw each other often. We participated in the same activities. Now that we've moved on from those activities, they've made friends with new people who they see everyday... so they're more inclined to talk to them instead (which sort of makes sense). It used to bother me for many years, but I've grown used to it. I'm not saying you should "get used to it", but I'm just saying that's how I've handled it.

[1278]

Originally Posted by bluebicycle

Yeah, my friends are the same way. They don't talk to me unless I initiate. I think it's because I no longer see them every week. I mean, we became friends in the first place because we saw each other often. We participated in the same activities. Now that we've moved on from those activities, they've made friends with new people who they see everyday... so they're more inclined to talk to them instead (which sort of makes sense). It used to bother me for many years, but I've grown used to it. I'm not saying you should "get used to it", but I'm just saying that's how I've handled it.

The exact same thing happened to me, its something very hard to accept. I'm still getting used to it myself, it makes me very angry and frustrated at times too I only have my parents who I can rely on, and even they sometimes really don't understand what I'm going through.

[Tucson]

Originally Posted by 1278

The exact same thing happened to me, its something very hard to accept. I'm still getting used to it myself, it makes me very angry and frustrated at times too I only have my parents who I can rely on, and even they sometimes really don't understand what I'm going through.

I think this is quite natural. Solution is to make new freinds, but I understand that this is very difficult if not out of the question for most of us.

Tucson