I'm tired of people making me feel guilty for taking a new job! It makes me feel horrible. Can anyone relate?

My first job out of college was working at a large defense contractor. I had to quit after three and a half months because I couldn't handle it. All the stress induced a mixed episode.

When I gave my two weeks notice, both of my bosses (yes, I had two) kept making snide remarks. Or they gave attitude like: "Well, looks like we're going to have a HUGE HOLE because SOMEONE is leaving..." Or one of them said "Well, Steve, I GUESS you'll have to do extra work now" while looking at me! I was always productive. I never dragged my feet or anything. And I most certainly didn't give anyone disrespect. So it's not like I was a worthless asshole employee.

Now I'm changing jobs again (because the stress has been f_cking with my mood), and my boss didn't say anything. Next thing I know, all of my work was given to someone else without telling me. Obviously someone else will have to pick up the work, but no one told me anything. I was trying to close things off, but nope, they just said, "Don't worry about it." Maybe I'm interpreting things wrong, but I start my new job on April 1st, so I DEFINITELY have time to close things off. I've only f_cked up a handful of times, and my boss told me before that I was a "valuable member of the team". So what the hell is the "don't worry about it" attitude coming from?

Jeez. Some people are so resentful.

[Moose72]

Sounds like they want you to just go home- today

I'm sorry you are feeling bad and colleagues are making it less pleasant. In the first scenario, it just sounded like they'd miss you and thought you valuable. That's how I read it. The second scenario sounds like maybe they understand you need some time off or perhaps they just needed to get the ball rolling with training someone else on your duties. That's how I read it and would try to see it but perhaps I'm way off in left field here.

My ex husband is currently trying to make me feel guilty and bad about myself so yes, I do understand how it feels when people do that. I internalize people's judgements of me far too much. Even if every word and determination they make is erroneous, I still find a way to validate their observations of me. I've only recently realized this about myself and I'm fighting hard to stand firm in who i am....not letting other people's ignorant judgements and observations sink in....especially when they hold these views just to ease their conscience over how they've treated me.

Good luck at your new job Blue.