[Ocean Swimmer]

My husband's family. His Dad loved and understood me. He passed away.

His brother wanted me to agree to giving him my Home. Not only did I not agree, my husband didn't want him to take my house either.

I've had episodes with my own family,but I hate my alcoholic step father anyway. The only thing is that he's taking care of my mom.

My best friend got married and severed ties with us.

1/2 brother robbed us so many times while we let him stay with us and Tryed to help him stay off drugs. So we don't talk to him.
I've forgiven him, but my husband wants nothing to do with him.

My neighbor here in Costa Rica turned us into the city for a small building I built. He threatened to kill my dog if she got onto his land again.

I still have some great friends,but they don't understand me.

I'd like to be more like I was before marriage. Outgoing,friendly and having more friends.

I got an eml from my husband. I don't think I'll see him until July.

[Ocean Swimmer]

Can anyone relate? I'm glad I have this forum to vent.
Have no t or Pdoc here. They're in California.
I have a girlfriend coming to CR end of this month I hope.

[hahayeahtotallylol]

Sure - I'll bite.

I don't lose many friends to being erratic. Then again, i'm only BPII. Most of mine i drop off from when i come back down, even just to baseline.

[Ocean Swimmer]

I know. I'm so popular when hypomanic. Then not so much when depressed.

Yeah, I lost a lot of my friends due to my behavior.

My depression is usually what causes people to leave me. I become very isolated and I just suck the fun out of everything because I'm moping around.

Sometimes when I'm hypo/manic, I become very annoying. I talk nonstop and don't give others the chance to speak. That annoys people.

It sounds like you've been through similar things.

There was one time (4 years ago) where my mood was elevated and these "friends" I made got annoyed that I was talkative and overbearing. I call them "friends" because what they did hurt my feelings. Basically, they told me they were going out to eat at a restaurant, and they told me to meet them there at 5:30. They wanted me to reserve a table for them, so I got there 15 minutes early to reserve a table (just to make sure I wouldn't miss them). Turns out they never showed up. I was awkwardly sitting at the table all by myself. I texted them and asked if they were coming, and the only thing they said was "lol". It was especially awkward because I was sitting near some people who I knew from school. (They were 2 tables away.) They could tell that nobody was going to show up to meet me. Then when I saw these girls the next day and asked them why they did that, they said, "It's 'cause you don't shut up and you're overbearing."

[TishaBuv]

It sounds like all the friends and family you 'lost' are because of bad things they did and not you.

[Ocean Swimmer]

Yeah Blue. That's plain mean. What a bunch of jerks!

[tbird20tv]

I am BP II and like everyone else I have a lot of friends when I am hypomanic and lose them during the depression. I even lost my marriage.

Blue - those are not friends. Friends do not go out of their way to hurt you or make an example of you.

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[Keegan2015]

blue -- that is seriously ****** and cruel and they handled their issue with you like childhood bullies. Sorry that happened

I lost, or at the very least seriously alienated a lot of my friends and acquaintances from high school and college during mania. While hypo and manic I talk wayyy too much and overshare about my personal life which weirds people out.

I was going through a phase last year where I would drop people (who I hadn't seen in months) these really long, rant-y voicemails that I'm sure came across as bizarre and off putting. I event went so far as to drop a VM accusing a guy who I hung out with in high school of stealing some music equipment from me years earlier... which he did ... but he listened to the VM and shot me a couple of text messages being like "Dude, wtf?" so that bridge was burned.

I still have a couple of close friends who have been really forgiving and understanding of my manic ****shows and for that I am grateful.

[Woolly Bugger]

I have never lost a single friend due to erratic behavior bipolar episodes, but my heart goes out to those who have. It must be exhausting and traumatic to make friends when you are manic, just to lose them when you are depressed. All that hard work and maintenance down the drain, only to be repeated in the next cycle. A real revolving door of relationships. It is one of the more challenging aspects of being BP.

[Ocean Swimmer]

It's great to be in a community with all of you. The comraderie builds when we have similar situations.

I think we can feel comforted that there's understanding here.
Our non bipolar,s/o,husband,wife, and family sometimes have no clue.

Thanks for sharing! Maxy

[fishin fool]

I have lost friends over the years but it seems to have happened slowly over
many years. Even the friends I had all my life going all the way back to high
school have slowly but surely dropped off.
I must admit though that I blame my ex-wife for much of that because she
was very good at spinning everything to make herself look like an innocent
victim when that is very far from the truth.
I belong to two fishing clubs and have managed to make some friends from
them but if it doesn't last, so be it.

[violetgreen]

I can relate to losing friends, but I've lost more friends because of moving away, them or me. And I'm terrible at staying in touch, so we're they. Now, I have 2 close friends, and some aquaintences. When I was a letter writer in my 20's a friend basically dropped me because of my long handwritten miserable letters. At the time, I didn't recognize the misery, but it came out in my letters. I don't blame her though.

I guess things change, because when I was a kid, my siblings were the most necessary people to me, now I rarely interact with any of them, rarely see them, only have my childhood memories of us as a group.

I've lost friends but it was due to divorce...ex took all the friends. Don't blame yourself, Ocean. I love Costa Rica!

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