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Old Mar 28, 2016, 06:09 PM
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Grief is a funny thing. I've had a good week. Been feeling stable for a long time, about a month, except for grief. But this past week I've been better. I think I would have been hypomanic if I hadn't gotten my Invega shot. Maybe that's why. But today has been tough. I've done pretty good but spent a lot of the day laying around. My son stayed home from preschool today because his tummy was upset this morning and he was in the bathroom a lot so I figured it best to keep him home. I played with him for a little while and then laid on the couch being miserable. And it took me awhile to figure out why I was miserable but I got it. Yesterday at Easter dinner my family was talking about regular dinners and I brought up that I don't cook anymore because my son doesn't eat adult food and I don't see the point of cooking for just one person. And I realized that really depressed me. I miss cooking meals. I miss cooking for my husband. I miss having him here, even when he was complaining about what I made (which wasn't very often). It makes me so sad.

So I sat there for a little while being miserable. Then I got up and gave my son a bath. During the bath I decided to hell with it. Tomorrow I am going to make honey mustard mozzarella chicken, something I made often when my husband was alive because it's very tasty and easy to make. I'm going to make one of my frozen vegetable side dishes and probably no starch since hubby isn't here and I'm not a huge potato or rice eater right now. And I took out sausage to make on Thursday (Wednesday is my standing dinner date with my son). If I can make a goal to cook once a week for now I think I'll be happier. I already feel better.

Grief is so strange. Something as simple as making dinner can send you into a tailspin. I'm glad I figured it out though. And I'm not repressing it.
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Old Mar 28, 2016, 06:31 PM
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Your chicken dish sounds wonderful and blessed t sounds like your really looking forward to it...enjoy HUGS

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Old Mar 28, 2016, 06:41 PM
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What a good idea to start small by cooking one meal a week!
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I did not know. Of course you are depressed and tired around the holidays.
Many blessings to you and your little one.
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Old Mar 28, 2016, 07:29 PM
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Old Mar 28, 2016, 08:55 PM
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Old Mar 28, 2016, 09:40 PM
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I am so sorry about the loss of your husband. I like your idea of cooking once a week and the dinner you're planning sounds delicious. Be kind to yourself while you take steps to get back to things. ((( hugs)))
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Old Mar 29, 2016, 01:07 AM
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Wildflower- good idea.
I also cook and freeze. Soup, Speg sauce. Rice with coconut and milk.
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Old Mar 29, 2016, 07:04 AM
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((((hugs)))) You are a strong woman.

Cooking at least once a week sounds like a good idea. Maybe your son might even decide to try some of it. You could even involve him a little bit. Sometimes kids are more willing to try a dish if they help prepare it.

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Old Mar 29, 2016, 07:37 AM
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Grief is so strange. Something as simple as making dinner can send you into a tailspin. I'm glad I figured it out though. And I'm not repressing it.
I think you may have something here. It's just my husband and me, and I've let control of the kitchen go because he's so fussy... but I miss it. I think I will "take back the kitchen" and see if it helps my mood any.
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Old Mar 29, 2016, 08:39 AM
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((((hugs)))) You are a strong woman.

Cooking at least once a week sounds like a good idea. Maybe your son might even decide to try some of it. You could even involve him a little bit. Sometimes kids are more willing to try a dish if they help prepare it.

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Yes, he loves cooking with me. He's getting better at trying different things so I think I'll be able to get him to at least try it.
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Old Mar 29, 2016, 03:51 PM
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I loved making chocolate chip and walnut cookies with my grandma.
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Old Mar 29, 2016, 05:07 PM
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I did it! I made it and ate it and it was delicious. I made frozen green bean casserole on the side. My son ate earlier than I did so I didn't share with him but maybe in the future. I'm happy I made something. When I go back to work I'll start making enough for two meals so I can have lunch the next day. That way I don't have to eat as many frozen meals.
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