A few weeks back, I made a thread about how I wanted to attend DBSA meetings. The problem is, I haven't gone to any yet.

I really want to attend a support group, but I have really bad anxiety. I know this is going to sound silly to most of you, but I'm afraid I will get there and somebody will know me. (I just feel embarrassed for some reason. )

Now, there's this girl I met when I was in 4th grade who I became good friends with. We were both in the ski club at school. (That's how we met.) Well, in 5th grade, she randomly started treating me like crap. I'd try talking to her and she'd purposely ignore me.

I noticed that she has attended one of these DBSA meetings in the past (February 24th, 2016 to be exact). I know it because I looked it up on meetup.com and saw her name there for one of the meetings. Even though her name has not appeared lately, I'm afraid I'm going to face her again and it's just going to be awkward. Our friendship did *not* end on good terms, and I have no idea why she treated me like crap. (She wasn't a bully or anything. She just had this "I'm too good for you" attitude, and it really upset me. She purposely refused to talk to me.)

I'm now 24, and I realize that happened when I was 11... but it's still fresh in my mind. I'm sure she's changed, but I'm deathly afraid of the awkwardness.

[boogiesmash]

I hear you on the anxiety part and what if I know someone in the group. Well they probably have the mindset what if I run into someone I know. Hope this helps.

[Ocean Swimmer]

Maybe you can contact the leader of the DBSA group and ask if she's been there lately.
I'm not sure they'll tell you, but they may.
When I'm in a CA I go every week. It helps a lot.

[Icare dixit]

Bluebicycle, there is this tendency with some people to develop a personality to match our BP (a personality to make get us nearer the "psychotic spectrum" (PS) borderline; or just BPD). It protects us by giving us a (more or less dysfunctional, at first) way of expression and also by us feeling anxious when we get too involved (fancies, not necessarily or only tentatively romantic, can be strong in a delusional mind, as you may know). Like with every unease and our perfect (sarcasm) way of expression, we may sabotage the emotional bond.

That she visits BP support groups is probably enough indication that she has accepted and wants to work on her problems, the one sketched just now (and by you) included. She probably already found better ways of expression and less assertiveness. Going to a BP support group means you have to leave your façade of (over)confidence, typical of those with personalities to match, at the door. She's probably done that.

You might still be a bit careful not to become too close with people that still have borderline personality problems. We are very nice, but may not always look the part, personality-wise. Some personalities just don't mix very well with other, specific personalities.

You'll do fine!

Edit:
We mean you no harm.

Always wanted to say that!