Dating.....

I'm starting to get back out there after a long time but my Dr warned me this morning that the normal ups and downs of dating can set off full episodes. Any advice for how to stay stable when even a normal person's body goes highly emotional?

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I forgot what dating is. But I can bump you thread to the top!

If anyone does know please share...I've reached the point of why bother. I can barely handle my moods, let alone someone else trying to

I do have a piece of advice. I recently dated for 2 months (which was the first time since my diagnosis).

A couple weeks or so into dating, my moods started going crazy. Now that I think about it, when I started dating, my daily routine got thrown off. Especially my SLEEP schedule. I was staying up one or two, sometimes even three, hours later at night to talk on the phone. And when we would go out, I'd be up waaaaay past my bedtime.

When we broke up, my moods stabilized again!! ...because my routine went back to normal.

So I would suggest trying to maintain your current routine as much as possible, especially getting to bed at a good time. Whoever you date will just have to understand, and if they can't get onboard, then they aren't the right person.

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Keep your expectations low. Don't take any rejection to heart. Don't let any new relationship progress too quickly. Try to have fun.

These are my thoughts too.

This is a tough one. The best advice I can give is for you to be absolutely certain and comfortable in who you are before you start dating others. That self-confidence goes a long way in keeping you stable as you date, and in your relationships.

Others will disagree, but I say don't tell them you are bipolar on your first date. Wait until you've gone out a few times and feel your relationship might be going somewhere before you do.

I concur

I wouldn't wish dating on my worst enemy.

Put a brake on without looking dis-/uninterested, so more like teasing but keeping emotional distance. So just act, basically. The non-acting part would just be like becoming friends: getting to know someone, similar interests and all that (or none/little of it of course: move on). Just a bit like BPD-like distancing, but without the erratic, zigzag shifts: just gradually. Just a bit of sabotaging to protect yourself and to make sure someone is really interested, maybe. Just talking about eccentricity without divulging the full gravitas of this "eccentricity". Stuff like that.

Basically, easy does it, gradually showing more of the full you.

I never ever date.

My schizomanic and depressive self are enough. We seem to hit it off.
Three is crowd. Great dynamic for friends, not for anything else. Someone else just makes my schizomanic self too excited and my depressive self too jealous.

Three is crowd. Great dynamic for friends, not for anything else. Someone else just makes my schizomanic self too excited and my depressive self too jealous.

That's funny.

With my psychotic self, anyone who shows just the slightest interest in me, I go ocd wanting to talk and get together until it completely freaks them out and they run for the border.