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Mar 23, 2016, 10:42 PM
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My adult som got in legal trouble. He was supposed to turn himself into the lock jail where his ex wife just so happen to work and he panicked. Today he's two due past his turn in date. We had six our goodbyes and I even gave him money for his books which he spent. I'm madder at him but wondering if I should t be more understanding.
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Mar 24, 2016, 12:06 AM
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There's a fine line between being understanding and enabling.
I'm bipolar and there are many times I feel it makes it harder to "move". Especially when I'm depressed I just feel stuck. I know I need to do X but the effort to do it seems so monumental. However; it's still my decision good or bad. It's still your son's decision to turn himself in. Being bipolar does not make you incapable of good decisions it just seems to be a little harder to get off your duff and do it.
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Mar 24, 2016, 05:49 AM
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Mar 24, 2016, 07:19 AM
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Mar 24, 2016, 08:09 AM
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I agree with everything the other posters said, but it might all be self-sabotaging behaviour: both breaking the law and the rest. Any comments by you to "remind him" may work counterproductive. Panic/anxiety is generally about some underlying problem one cannot properly express or rationalise. It's best to talk about any underlying problem, which could be sabotaging himself, and speak about why he does it. The reason could very well be an inability to talk about and rationalise an even further underlying problem: his BP. He might just unwittingly do these things to give an "rational" explanation for his troubles by clearly hurting himself, again, just so as to have a "valid" reason.
Such self-harming behaviour is quite typical. One could argue that the risk-taking by those with BP (especially when manic) is for a considerable part to have an valid reason for failure, leading to a relatively milder depression (the rest being accounted for by the strengthening of mania by limiting options and consequent stress/excitement). But it could be something else completely, of course.
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Mar 24, 2016, 10:16 AM
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I started another thread. Please don't respond to this one. Don't know how to delete this thread
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Mar 24, 2016, 12:24 PM
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========= HUGS!!!========
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Mar 25, 2016, 05:51 PM
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