How did you meet your current SO (boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, partner, etc.)?

When did you tell them you're bipolar? Was it very easy for you to tell them, or was it very difficult?

I don't have an SO, but I'm very curious! I want to start dating again. Maybe this will get my hopes up!

[BastetsMuse]

I met my husband on AdultFriendFinder. I was blogging my experiences with my dates and he commented. I liked what he said, wrote him, and we started emailing and chatting. We went out for a date, and WHAM.... we were both smitten.

AdultFriendFinder is a sexual website, by the way. I was seeking friends with benefits at the time, not a relationship. Boy, was I surprised.

I was honest from the beginning about my bipolar, and I wasn't on any medication at the time that I met my husband. He was instrumental in my going back to a pdoc and taking medication again to get stable. It was easy for me to tell him about the bipolar, because I had decided I was going to be honest about it and to hell with those who couldn't accept me.

[Ocean Swimmer]

I was on a break from 24/7 care of Grandparents.
Went to our family home in Az on Colorado River. Invited a bunch of friends. Plus I had friends on our street with boats too.
I hooked my neighbor up with my girlfriend. She wanted to be in a movie.

So I skied to our floating breakfast spot like everyday.

Wanted to unhook from that group.
Started talking to some guys, one a neighbor, that rented a wakeboard. But they couldn't get up. I told them I'd teach them if they took me with them. I picked my husband right away.
We've been together ever since,except the months he travels for work.
We got married and have been together for 20 years.
My folks warned him stuff like, Don't let her work too hard. Make sure she naps and sleeps well.
He just knew I was nervous. I also have granuloma annulare. A ugly skin condition. And a slight tremor syndrome.

[Ocean Swimmer]

Also Blue,
I had been talking to my grandparents. My grandfather just said, "Do the things you love to do, on the days you like( I don't do weekends,too hectic). Then you'll see someone who will do what you both enjoy together. "
So I'll advise you the same. Best of luck.

[raspberrytorte]

A class in college. I wasn't diagnosed at the time, so didn't know.

[pirilin]

One thing I can tell you. If she had known, or me, for that matter, there wouldn't be a 25 yrs relationship. The bomb exploded five yrs ago. At 62. What is she gonna do now, shoot me?.

[LacunaCoiler]

A religious studies class the last semester of my college years. I needed 1 elective course to graduate and I wanted an easy class (my major was duel bio with psych) so I took it because I was interested in different religions. We sat next to each other and on the last week of school she asked me out. At the time I didn't know I was bipolar and I wasn't diagnosed until 5 or 6 years into our relationship. She stood by me through it all (even through the multiple times I "broke up" with her) and now we're getting married at the end of this month.

[fishin fool]

We met at work. I didn't know at the time that I was bipolar but I did tell her
about my depression. When I got the bipolar diagnosis we were already together
and she has been very supportive.

[Trippin2.0]

We met in high school, soon became best friends, and fell in love, although we didn't act on those feelings at the time.

He knew I was crazy from the get go though

A decade later when we reunited and actually started dating, he urged me to find a pdoc, the dx(s) was no surprise and of no consequence.


Getting them helped clarify alot of things, answered alot of questions, and helped us arm ourselves adequately, to be able to weather the storms better, together.


Guess it helps to have fallen in love with your best friend, even if romance only entered the picture a decade later.


It may look like a lot of time lost, but not only did it feel like no time had passed, but I doubt we would've been able to be together and stay together, if we had started dating as teenagers.

[MusicLover82]

When I was single, I liked going out on the town by myself to bars and restaurants to chat with strangers and meet people. I hated being home with my parents (I had just finished grad school at the time), so I went out alone. So believe it or not, I met my hubby at a pub. I was sitting at the bar eating dinner and he sat down with a friend. I butted into the conversation, and the rest is history.

There was a period of time after our first date where we were chatting long-distance via email because he hadn't yet moved to my city. So, during those series of "getting to know you" emails, I told him about my diagnosis. He took it very well, and he has never looked down at me because of my MI. I take VERY good care of myself and I don't need him to remind me to do anything. So, apart from the whining about anxiety or worries and the occasional mood swing, I don't think I get on his nerves much. We get along great, are very much in love, and complement one another very well. We lived together 2 years before getting married. We've been married 4 years now.

[violetgreen]

We met during my 1st week of college. I had an immediate crush on him, but we didn't date until after my 2nd year. We re-met unexpectedly, in mid-June, were married early October, and we've been together almost 39 years. I was only diagnosed with BP last March, but was treated for other dx most of my adult life. After the BP dx, I was more forthcoming with my feelings and experiences, since I just couldn't hide it anymore. It took him about 10 months to adjust and accept the changes I needed to make. But he's a solid support now.

[MistressStayc]

I would say current SO but we just split. We met on here just over 2 years ago.

[boogiesmash]

Originally Posted by MistressStayc

I would say current SO but we just split. We met on here just over 2 years ago.

Met on pc? How did that happen if you don't mind me asking.

[Victoria'smom]

We were in college, he knocked on my dorm door to see a mutual friend. The friend was busy so we spent time together re-arranging dorm furniture to jump over. We knew each other from class but I thought he was an *** and I was the girl who broke pencils and walked out. We spent most of the next two weeks awake doing manic things, like being chased out of a grave yard at 4 am by things only he could see, and getting engaged. We eventually fell asleep together at said friends house. Then we kinda never left each others side. I told him I was anorexic and never ever want to go to the hospital that if he ever sent me to the hospital that's the last time he'll see me. That's only because I overshare when manic. I wasn't dx'd yet.

When I did get dx'd I went off told him he must be bipolar also blah, blah, blah. I was right. I only got dx'd over a threat of divorce.

[wiretwister]

blind date , married in 6 months ... yes it really was love at first sight for both of us ... 34 years this july ... guess I have always been a little different ... in the begining it was covered up by religion ... can get away with a lot if your "spirit filled" ... we had moved to a distant city for my school so we really only had each other ... after enough years you just accept whatever comes .. that has been true for both of us ... we get thru things together ... whatever they are ... I guess I have had a story book marriage ... but to be fair we are both very "old school" , till death do us part ... sickness and health and all that sappy stuff ....

[MistressStayc]

Originally Posted by boogiesmash

Met on pc? How did that happen if you don't mind me asking.

We met in chat. Became friends and eventually ended up in a long distance relationship where we visited each other when we could.

Forgot to add that he obviously knew I was bipolar from the beginning because of meeting here.