[cowboy87]

So me and my wife argue constantly about money. I finally decided that the best step to take is to separate our checking accounts. When I get into my hypomanic or manic episodes I tend to spend money and spend so much that I don't realize that I don't leave any money for the bills or for her to spend at all. She is constantly nagging me over every little swipe I make with my debit card though it is kind of a compulsive behavior for me to spend money and is a huge relief from my symptoms. Is anybody else bipolar or have a spouse that has bipolar and they tend to have difficulties with managing their checking accounts and what do you guys do in order to help alleviate the financial stress in your family situation? Most of the results from overspending could be due to my borderline personality disorder I tend to have very little control when it comes to impulsiveness with money.

[pirilin]

My wife has one with bipolar.
I have one debit card (my bank) and one low limit credit card (like 3k I think) for emergencies.
I went drinking the other day, and they didn't take my chipless debit card.
The storm is coming. Bye. Taking shelter.

[Coconutzo]

I have had major problems with managing money in relationships. When I'm manic I CANNOT STOP SPENDING.
My last boyfriend (9years) and I shared checking/savings and it was a complete nightmare. He checked in on me constantly and nag nag nagged me. I, in turn flew off the handle. I overspent. I ran up tens of thousands in credit card debt and had to go through a credit counseling program. He treated me like a baby and a child. I physically assaulted him. Eventually money was on the list of reasons we split. I'll never share money again.

Now in my new relationship, I hide purchases and downplay spending. I blame the past. My partner should probably know what's up with my spending. I'm good at faking wellness but my spending is a dead giveaway and it jeopardizes our comfortable living. Last month I spent 8,000 on nothing. He doesn't know at all. I own the house we live in with a sizable mortgage that I have to be able to pay. I've also gotten in about ten grand over my head with the irs. Now that I'm back on earth, depressed even, I wish I could tell him how bad I've been and share the burden. At least get some support, but ****, I'm too ashamed and overwhelmed.

So money and relationships with bipolar...
Do better than me and be open.
Give your cards to your wife when you aren't well. Take an allowance. Don't repeat the cycle or allow it to ruin your primary relationship. Do it for you and for your love of her.

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[Unrigged64072835]

My husband controls the finances. I have a debit card and a low-balance credit card. Once I burn through that I'm done.

[hopeless2015]

My husband and I have separate accounts and for awhile I had my paycheck deposited into my mom's account. I just went back to having it deposited into mine and I'm struggling a bit. Maybe I should go back to an allowance and not manage money at all. I'm giving myself a little more time to decide, I really need to get it together....if I can

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