[Standup2me]

Three years ago we moved from the country to the city.

I thought that by now I would get used to the noise, the traffic, the smells, the people...and on and on...

I feel like living in the city is slowing killing me, but for many reasons, we have to stay here.

Any words of wisdom?
Pep talk?
Been there done that?

Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I did that, and moved back to the country again. I'd rather make adjustments. How about verti-grow? Don't you have that in Canada?! It's like hydroponics but vertically, up high rises. Maybe build a little garden or find parks? I'm making an ark in my garden https://www.arkwildlife.co.uk/Catego..._Habitats.html. Mane you could join a dog walking meet Up?

I've always lived in the suburbs. It's like a mix of city and country life. I've always wondered what it would be like to live in the city or country. I'm sorry you are homesick. Do they have any trails or wooded hiking paths in the area? Maybe you need to get back to nature and away from all the buzzing, sirens, people, smog. Walking through a wooded area can feel grounding. I hope some people with experience in this area can offer some practical advise. (((hugs)))

[Standup2me]

Originally Posted by ElsaMars

I've always lived in the suburbs. It's like a mix of city and country life. I've always wondered what it would be like to live in the city or country. I'm sorry you are homesick. Do they have any trails or wooded hiking paths in the area? Maybe you need to get back to nature and away from all the buzzing, sirens, people, smog. Walking through a wooded area can feel grounding. I hope some people with experience in this area can offer some practical advise. (((hugs)))

Good advice Elsa. I think that there is a group close by called 100 Horses where they rescue abused horses. I wonder if they need help with the stables?

[Standup2me]

Originally Posted by Little Cat

I did that, and moved back to the country again. I'd rather make adjustments. How about verti-grow? Don't you have that in Canada?! It's like hydroponics but vertically, up high rises. Maybe build a little garden or find parks? I'm making an ark in my garden https://www.arkwildlife.co.uk/Catego..._Habitats.html. Mane you could join a dog walking meet Up?

Littlecat you have the cutest picture. Is that your cat? She is so cute

[Woolly Bugger]

Is it the city or your current frame of mind that is making you unhappy? Are you stable? Are your meds working? If not, you might be unhappy in the city, the country, or anywhere in between. I know that I've lived in places that I've hated, only to realize that it was my mental state that was controlling my happiness, and not the place itself. Just a thought...

[Wild Coyote]

Hi, I enjoy visiting cities. However, I am often very stressed if I stay very long. I am better off visiting and then getting a room in the country, even if it means driving back into the city the next day.

I am ultra sensitive to activity, noise, scents and more. I think much of my adverse reaction is PTSD.

Yet, I am also very sensitive to electricity and feel like I am buzzing with it if I spend too much time in the cities. My muscles twitch and nerve pain worsens, etc.

I have great difficulties if/when we have to stay overnight in a hotel in areas like: Los Angeles, for example.

I am sure it adversely affects my health, on all levels, and quickly.

Have you heard of "earthing?" A search will give you lots of info on this practice, I would need to employ these practices in the city.

A good starting place: Home - Earthing_Institute


WC

[msrobot]

I went to uni in the city, and the noise, smells, street harassment, etc, really made a negative impact on my mental health/overall quality of life. I felt like I had to put on a mental "armor" every day, even heavier than the one I normally wear. Not going downtown daily anymore, really centered me, and helped me get into a more manageable place. I don't mind visiting occasionally, now.

When I felt overwhelmed, I'd try to find somewhere quiet downtown, like a public library, or garden.

[Standup2me]

Originally Posted by Woolly Bugger

Is it the city or your current frame of mind that is making you unhappy? Are you stable? Are your meds working? If not, you might be unhappy in the city, the country, or anywhere in between. I know that I've lived in places that I've hated, only to realize that it was my mental state that was controlling my happiness, and not the place itself. Just a thought...

Good food for thought.

[Ripose]

I know exactly how you feel. I had to move from a cabin the woods to a city for health reasons so I moved into the smallest city I could find that had everything for my health. Still not great but far better than Calgary or Edmonton.