I am a really poor loser at games

I play games with my father. He won 4 games of monopoly in a row. I was so angry, I took the board and threw it in the garbage. Probably should not have done that. I don't even know why I cared so much but It enraged me.

Hello Bipolarchic14: The Skeezyks dislikes games... in part because I have the tendency to react the same way...

The funny thing is I know it is JUST A GAME!!! Yet I can't get past the rage.

Does that always happen when you lose, regardless of who's winning?

I don't like playing games either. I'm really competitive, which along with my perfectionism doesn't go very well.

I'm the same way if I don't have an appropriate mood stabilizer - I get the irritable, angry mania sometimes. I've done the exact same thing.

No not really. Not to that degree.

Interesting. I can relate to that.

@bipolatchic

I am the way went it comes to golf. Just need to figure out a way to get through it

I play softball multiple nights per week and I have been known to throw my batt...sometimes near people. Also, lots and lots of cursing if I play poorly.

My husband and some friends of ours and I coordinated some game nights awhile back - getting together for dinner (potluck) and some wine and a game for the evening. I really like these folks, and didn't feel like anyone was there to beat me, particularly. We were all there with the intention of having fun. There was no history of winning/losing between us. I enjoyed that IMMENSELY, regardless of whether I won or not.

When playing with my family, there's a lot of teasing about how well anyone is doing, and it can get pretty sarcastic/harsh. I've been working on letting go of caring so much about my family and the way that they are - specifically how the culture we were raised in which my siblings still cling to. It's highly competitive, and there was merciless teasing growing up that was really shaming. Is this like your upbringing? Do you have a history with getting emotional playing with your dad or others in your family?

As an adult, I have had a hard time with being competitive - I work really hard at trying to curb it, because it's not something that serves me well when I'm playing games with people I like/love.

With my family, now, I have to either not play at all, or choose to have a non-competitive approach to the games. Sometimes, that means I'm out of the game early on (can be a blessing). I don't engage in the negative banter anymore. I don't bring up the games later, and I don't respond to trash talking either during the games or after. It's taken some time, but I can play with my family now without getting super angry or frustrated if I'm not doing well. It's much more fun.

I actually think having kids helped with that a lot - it's no fun playing with someone that beats you all the time, and I want my kids to have fun playing with me. I don't let them win, per se, but I will alert them to good moves they might be missing, and I'm not super competitive with them. They're good practice for me...

No we grew up with games being just that. We would tease each other a little but nothing serious. I can remember playing monopoly as a child. My most memorable time was when we were camping. It was night out and it was raining. I don't recall if I won or lost but I had a really good time. I don't know why I've been getting so enraged. The only thing I can think of is I am in an episode right now so it's possible that this is causing it. My tolerance levels have not exactly been high lately.

when i play games, i always say i don't care who wins.. a game is a game- but, someone else wins and i'm well, annoyed about it.

I don't trash the board or anything, but i certainly tell that person in not so pleasant terms to get lost, and I don't want to talk to them.. and they are like what?. because i won?. I'm like yes, i wanted to win!

but during the game i take the it's only a game atitude.. it's strange

oh yes, i've been known to be losing at a game and just stand up and walk away and never finish the game

Ha! This brings back a great memory.. The time my ex-girlfriend bought me the game of Risk for Christmas..which I love. The first time we played it we had some friends over. Well.. I was winning. But then the girls decided to team up put me out of the game. I threw a tantrum..and there ended Risk night for good.

awwwww!

so glad you got enjoyment out of risk though

(i'm not actually sure i know what that is?. is it like life?)

Risk is a board game where the objective is world domination. Which is also an objective of mine. But I've made absolutely no progress.

Have you considered that they're still conspiring against you on that objective?

Yes... and they might not be the only ones. Or maybe I'm just paranoid. ;-)

*wonders what would happen if bipolars ruled the world*

actually I don't, but it may be a fun topic

(i didn't steall it!. I promise!)

That would be an awesome topic we should have an ongoing story through thread

We would need two leaders... North and South.

and we'd need to set some rules too like a government

rule number 1: have as much chocolate as you like, it's yummy!

our leaders should be bipolarchick14, and bluebicycle

just saying