Relationship discourse

Whenever I'm depressed, my primary relationship devolves into this dramatic awful mess. We have non stop fights and stop understanding each other at all. This of course spurs further hopelessness and anxiety. My therapist suggested that I bring my partner in to help him understand and handle my depression. When I suggested this my partner flew off the handle. I'm wondering what other people do to protect their partners and their relationships from the hellfire that is the depressed spirit.

My husband is there when I need him and has his own life when he wants it. We both take our time. When depressed I usually just sit and sob and prefer to be left alone or sit next to him while he plays his video games. He has hobbies and interests outside of my illness and I encourage him to participate and enjoy them. I try to handle my own business as much as possible. We do fight a bit when I'm manic.....it's banter and nothing serious. It used to be much worse because he mistakenly thought that arguing against my delusions and getting upset was an effective strategy to make me see the light. We learned about new communication techniques online and in family therapy and it's made a word of difference.

We are all unique with different needs depending on the nature of our illness and mood. What works for some, might not work for others. You are challenged with finding what works for you both. I hope my experience offers you something. (((Hugs)))

my wife also has resisted going to a T with me ... I did get her to go once by her self ... I think in my case she felt we were ganging up on her ... she never has gone with me ... I hope you guys can find a way .... problems are resolved {or at least tolerated better} if both of you can work as a team .... best wishes ...

I realize that I fling my feelings everywhere, and that every little thing said or done feels directed towards me. That feeling drives me further into the ground. I cry and I try to talk about my feelings, but it's usually not received well. It could be the profound confusion I feel when depressed. I dissociate a lot and think in consulates loops. I just wish I could protect him from it. I also wish he would respond in a way that doesn't feel like emotional abandonment,imagined or otherwise