I'm pregnant

RxQueen I'm blood type O, RH neg & partner is blood type O, RH pos. I'm so not educated on anything pregnancy, birth or baby related even though I'm an RN, it's just information I've never gravitated to because it's not my field of interest to work in. I knew I would need the anti-D injection because of my negative Rhesus factor but I thought it was closer to birth? What did your sister have to do? & could it indeed result in a miscarriage early on?

Thank you

I miscarried at about 5 weeks from it. If you're preg, you get the shot during first trimester and again after you give birth. And yea my step sister did have multiple miscarriages between kids. Just hope that your uterus doesn't bleed from casual stretching or your blood will attack the fetus. I'm scared to death to get preg again cuz of what I went through. I'm O neg but if my partner was also neg then it's fine.

Your story is a sad one. Personally, I know that having sex without using contraception can cause pregnancy, so unless I was okay with being pregnant I wouldn't have careless sex. I support your right to have an abortion, but please, before you make such a life-changing decision, get an ultrasound and at least look at the developing baby. You might feel differently about being a mother when you do see the tiny fetus developing.

Wow thanks for that info, I always thought it was given later in the pregnancy but I will ask about getting this also because of the risk to a baby in the future if I haven't had the anti D now & this pregnancy could be RH pos.

LaureaBeth I was cocky, I had no accidents or apparent near misses in 3 years after coming off OCP, for months I had no period at all (all neg preg tests), later found polycystic ovaries & was told I likely wasnt ovulating, so instead I just tried not to be intimate with my partner during the time I figured I would be ovulating (based on my cycle & physical signs of ovulation etc), TMI warning! We used the very unreliable pull out method, which obviously now I wouldn't recommend, but honestly I just thought I would have to have IVF to conceive. Not so it would appear.

During a very irresponsible time in my life (or what my T believes to be a hypomania phase), I became pregnant after a one-night stand from someone I didn't know. The thought of termination did cross my mind. Talked to my doctor about it. Got the info about where to go. I was/am dealing with severe mental illness, at that point I was drinking a lot, and I was afraid. I thought I'd be a **** mom. That I'd mess up and he'd wind up just like me. I still do. For personal reasons, I changed my mind and kept the baby. Then halfway through, I considered Adoption. Again, called the people, got the info. But again, I couldn't do it. Might have been because everyone told me that I couldn't do it and adoption or abortion would be responsible. I'm stubborn that way.
It's a decision only you can make, knowing what you can handle, knowing your mind and self. I support whatever decision you choose. You know your life best. It'll be tough, but listen to your heart, your gut. What is it that you need?

Oh, I meant to mention that in no way is marijuana a contraceptive. I know there have been some rumors about mj decreasing sperm count, but truthfully if mj was a contraceptive, many couples I've known through the years would be childless...and they're not

Smoking MJ, especially daily like we were is correlated with decreased fertility according to many IVF & fertility specialists, although it's by no means a form of contraception I agree.

So what do you think you're going to do??? Keep it?? It sounds like it could be a miracle in disguise but I understand you're freaked out too. I would be. I'm here to talk if you need anyone. ((Hugs))

This speaks volumes!
bizi

It is her body, but she also has another body to consider.

I'm still really not sure, I have a little time, I'm approx 6 weeks. My Dr says because I haven't taken high dose folic acid supplemts & im taking lamictal the risk of birth defects is higher (maybe more than I thought because I didn't think it was much higher).

You are in a situation I have been paranoid about being in since starting psych meds. No birth control is 100% and some drugs are very dangerous to the fetus in the first trimester. I lost my period while on Risperdal and I'm always regular so I was certain I was pregnant and soooooo terrified. I had to briefly think about what you are now forced to face for real. My heart is breaking for you and I'm so very sorry to hear you must make a decision of such crucial consequences. You can PM me if you need to talk privately about anything. (((Hugs)))

Trigger warning!

Yesterday I had a surgical termination after much deliberation, I want to be off all medications prior to a planned conception which I have discussed with my partner who agrees we can reconsider getting pregnant in a couple of years. I had a mirena inserted as it's the safest form of contraception for me (no increased risk of clots/embolisms, no estrogen component which can increase risk of seizures, no interaction with lamictal resulting in me having to increase my dose).

The whole experience was awkward but not horrible. The US indicated I was only 5 weeks not 7 like we expected so I must have ovulated later than the normal 14 days post menstruation (my cycles are super irregular anyway so that's no surprise), & I was wondering why I really had no symptoms other than mildly tender breasts & I only got them 3 days ago.

All in all I feel somewhat relieved but also sad, it's made me realise I really do want a child even though this time around it wasn't meant to be, I was again warned of risks of fetal abnormalities associated with anticonvulsants (although lamictal appears to have a lower risk than others, only if precautions are taken).

I feel a little empty (figuratively not literally), I feel low & ive been sleeping a lot, don't know if I can face work in a couple of days.

((Hugs)) I'm no one to judge. I'm glad you guys agreed to some kind of conclusion and I think you're being wise to wait till a better moment. Wish you a speedy recovery!

Physically and mentally you'll feel a little off I expect. Be good to yourself.

I'm glad you were able to make the best decision for yourself. I hope you recover fast. Are you in therapy?

((((((HUGS))))))
I know this was a hard decision.
bizi

You did what you knew was the best course of action. It's never an easy decision to go the route you did, and it's natural to feel hollow and empty. Not only are the hormones in your body all over the place right now, adjusting from pregnancy mode to non-pregnancy mode, but add the struggle with Bipolar and an already hard decision made to the mix and you've got the makings for one hell of a emotional mess.

I'm glad you've both decided to try again for a baby in the future when you feel you're both ready. While I've not had the pleasure of raising a child, I've seen how rewarding it is to those who have.

In the meantime, please take care of yourself, and stay safe.

Thanks everyone for the non judgemental support even though I know not everyone agrees with pregnancy termination.

I'm wondering if changing hormones really are contributing to a change in mood, I've had a few intrusive suicidal thoughts, just in quiet moments where I'm not distracted by anything I just think to myself I feel sad & I want to hurt myself. It's been a while since I've had these thoughts. I'm also finding it hard to find something that makes me feel good.