[jtassar93]

So my mom has a set of china from back in Russia. It's around 150 years old. It's supposed to be passed down to the oldest girl when she moves out.

So anyways my mom was using one of the plates and my step dad said to my sister (who is 17 and much more stable than me) "that'll be yours someday"

I was like...I'm the oldest..? And he said "what, like you're going to have a family someday?"

That hurt. I feel hopeless now. Who would want me anyways?

[Victoria'smom]

That is so rude and mean. I'm sorry.

[JustJace2u]

I'm sorry you had to hear that. I kinda know what you're feeling though. Every time I go visit my parents and we eat in the 'formal' dining room, I'm reminded that the table we're eating at now belongs to my brother (it was my grandparents' table). They never even bothered to ask me if I would want the table.

Originally Posted by jtassar93

So my mom has a set of china from back in Russia. It's around 150 years old. It's supposed to be passed down to the oldest girl when she moves out.

So anyways my mom was using one of the plates and my step dad said to my sister (who is 17 and much more stable than me) "that'll be yours someday"

I was like...I'm the oldest..? And he said "what, like you're going to have a family someday?"

That hurt. I feel hopeless now. Who would want me anyways?

That is just terrible and what a horrible thing for your step dad to say. Maybe you need to have a private conversation with your mom about the China? My grandmother collected china tea cups and saucers from all over the world her whole life. They were suppose to go to me when she passed but for a myriad of reasons did not. It really hurt me because they meant something very special to me. I grew up loving them and hearing my grandmas stories about each cup and saucer and its significance to her. But I couldn't change what was done so I decided to start my own China Cup and Saucer collection in her memory. It's not exactly the same but I think of my grandma each time I add to my collection . If you don't get the 150 year old China....pick out your own pattern and make your own memories.

I know this statement by your step dad was much bigger than a set of China.....he really must have cut your deeply with that kind of commentary (((hugs)))

[Unrigged64072835]

Sorry that you had to endure that from your step dad.

[jtassar93]

Thanks everyone

[Moose72]

I agree: that was uncalled for and mean. Feel better!

[Wander]

(((((Hugs))))

[bizi]

That was cruel.
you are precious don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi

[jtassar93]

I barely have any friends in real life so it means a lot to have you guys.

[Faltering]

That was a terrible thing for him to say. Try not to take his words to heart.
I don't have many friends (or any friends at all, really) in real life so I can relate. This is a great community and we're always here for you.

[ComfortablyNumb5]

Wow your step dad sounds like a class act a-hole. And from your previous posts, it seems like you two don't really get along. Does your mom at least stick up for you?? I'm sorry you have to go through that.

[jtassar93]

Originally Posted by RxQueen875

Wow your step dad sounds like a class act a-hole. And from your previous posts, it seems like you two don't really get along. Does your mom at least stick up for you?? I'm sorry you have to go through that.

Thank you
My mom does stick up for me sometimes but sometimes she's afraid that it'll get too heated and he'll leave us and we'd have to go back to Russia.