[boogiesmash]

So I met with my t and discussed the issue of me always bailing out of Kung fu. I expressed my love for it and wanting to get back at it asap, although I always find a reason not to go. Well we made a breakthrough talking and it is I'm self conscious of my body. I told her their are mirrors there and I hate seeing myself. This is true in other aspects of my life, such as I avoid looking at my reflection at the grocery store. Yes I did gain a lot of weight during my deep depression.

She said I need to confront my issue and look in the mirror often and say I love myself, and my body. I am willing to work out and diet to make it better. That wording exactly. I also need to accept myself. How do you accept yourself? How do you love your body? How do I make myself believe I love my body?

Any tips?

[Wild Coyote]

Great question!
I do not know the answer.

Maybe we need to love ourselves on all levels -- one of which is our physical Being?

This is a challenge for me, too.


WC

[boogiesmash]

Somewhat helpful, think it is more geared towards women.

22 Ways To Love And Accept Your Body Just The Way It Is | Bulimia Help

First, I would tackle the main problem: Why am I self conscious about my body?

Is it jealousy of other people's bodies? Did someone bully you? Does someone make you feel bad? Is someone body shaming you?

I agree that looking in the mirror more often will help. You have to conquer your fear head on. There's no way around it.

In terms of accepting yourself, I think writing down a list of your good qualities should help. Think about all the positive things other people have said to you.

In terms of accepting your body, IDK. I think that could be a double-edged sword. Like, if you accept your body too much but you definitely need to get healthier, then idk if that would help you motivation wise. You don't want to completely accept something that isn't healthy and say "it's a fact. i can't change myself. so i'll just love my body". e.g., If you're 500 lbs, then IDK if I'd recommend "loving your body" too much because then you might become too complacent? Like, you should love who you are, but be realistic about it. I don't know if you know what I mean.

[boogiesmash]

Originally Posted by bluebicycle

First, I would tackle the main problem: Why am I self conscious about my body?

Is it jealousy of other people's bodies? Did someone bully you? Does someone make you feel bad? Is someone body shaming you?

I agree that looking in the mirror more often will help. You have to conquer your fear head on. There's no way around it.

In terms of accepting yourself, I think writing down a list of your good qualities should help. Think about all the positive things other people have said to you.

In terms of accepting your body, IDK. I think that could be a double-edged sword. Like, if you accept your body too much but you definitely need to get healthier, then idk if that would help you motivation wise. You don't want to completely accept something that isn't healthy and say "it's a fact. i can't change myself. so i'll just love my body". e.g., If you're 500 lbs, then IDK if I'd recommend "loving your body" too much because then you might become too complacent? Like, you should love who you are, but be realistic about it. I don't know if you know what I mean.

I think it is jealousy as I strive to get a more ripped version of myself with low body fat. I also attribute few bad dates to my body.

T said the same thing I need to confront my fear.

[boogiesmash]

Bump bump

[gina_re]

Has your T given you ideas for this?
I don't think anyone would be able to answer this specifically for you since everyone is different in how they approach how they feel about themselves. It seems to be a huge issue for you that she should work through with you rather than just saying "you need to feel better about yourself."