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Jun 17, 2017, 12:49 PM
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I am not doing anything for my husband on Father's Day and part of me feels perfectly fine and justified with it and part of me feels a little bit mean about it. First of all, Father's Day is a day that only makes me sad since my Dad passed away in 2012 so I have no interest in celebrating the day at all. It's just depressing to me. I just want to cry on Father's Day. I was a "Daddy's girl" and he was the parent I was closest to... He taught me how to read a clock, do multiplication tables, do long division, ride a bike, to drive.... He bought me my first car. My mother was emotionally and physically abusive - he was not. And my Dad was always there to help me when I needed something as an adult. It broke my heart when he suddenly died. He was young and healthy, it was unexpected. So, Father's Day is just sad for me in the first place. '
As far as my husband goes - he never does anything for me for Mother's Day. Nothing. Not one small gesture. And he does nothing and covers his ***** by saying "Well, It's Mother's Day and YOU'RE not MY mother..." as to say it should be all up to the kids to do something because I'm not HIS mother, he is off the hook and then he does nothing. He does not care that I'm the mother of his children. He has been this way for about the past 4 years. I used to go all out and make sure the kids had a present for him and cards. I don't remember him ever making sure the kids had a Mother's Day card or gift for me. They always made me cute little things on their own. So, I'm done doing anything for him on Father's Day and I'm using his own motto... He's NOT MY father.... Am I mean????
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#2
Jun 17, 2017, 01:07 PM
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I'll make a large breakfast. I asked if my son (15) has anything done for his dad. This year he's really waiting until the last min. I don't do anything for him really. My sister saved my butt this year with a father's day mug.
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Jun 17, 2017, 01:16 PM
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NO you are not wrong.
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Jun 17, 2017, 01:19 PM
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I don't think you're mean.
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Jun 17, 2017, 01:48 PM
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It's the right thing to do!
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Jun 17, 2017, 03:46 PM
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My daughter went all out for Mother's Day. It was really cool. She has to work tomorrow so not sure what we're doing for my husband. He's her stepdad and we should do something. Maybe go out to his favorite restaurant for dinner. We were late celebrating Mother's Day because of the kids working and going to school.
If your husband isn't doing anything for you for Mother's Day, he shouldn't expect anything for Father's Day from you. |
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#7
Jun 17, 2017, 08:25 PM
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I don't think you're wrong at all. If he can't be bothered then you shouldn't be either.
My dad died when I was ten so I get not wanting to celebrate fathers say.
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