[Jensitive22]

I've been lonely, isolated and unhappy for quite a while. My dying marriage is taking its last gasps, but necessity requires us to live together with the "decomposing" relationship for now. I thought, "What's good for the goose is good for the gander". If the man I am living with is going to sext women, I am going to reach out for some emotional companionship. Yesterday I put a post on Craig's List in the Personals under Platonic. I made it abundantly clear I was not seeking anything sexual, but just wanted someone to text or email. Someone to connect with on an emotional level, a friend.

So far I've gotten over twenty responses and they are still coming today. I'm amazed...and a little concerned/afraid. This was how my mania started 8 years ago. Yes, I have some emotional needs that are NOT being met, but how do I do this safely and responsibly?

[Rjaye]

Maybe instead of seeing men, perhaps getting into a group that goes out and does things or have coffee might be a better option? Maybe there's a group on Meet-up where you can meet others and be in a safe environment might be a better idea? I usually find that most people who answer Craigslist ads tend to want a sexual relationship eventually, and might be answering thinking they can change your mind.

Unless eventually you do want a relationship that includes sexual intimacy. You may be having to kiss a lot of toads to get what you need and may be triggering.

This is only my experience, and you know what you can handle. Just throwing some ideas out there that might be more manageable if you start to have a mania.

[5150DirtDiva]

I saw your sexting post too. Maybe try sexting your husband? Clearly you both need to connect. Can you try to connect with each other?

[Woolly Bugger]

When it comes to Craigslist, just say no.

[Jensitive22]

Thanks you guys. I've listened to my red flag, deleted the CL post, and just finished answering 35 responses. I thanked them for reaching out but decided I didn't want to do this.

As far as spicing up a stale relationship by sexting my husband, there is just too much hurt and distrust. This isn't a relationship problem, this is a problem with my husband's character and values.

[boogiesmash]

Their is meetup. It has groups in your area that do activities from knitting to sky diving.

[Shazerac]

Oh sweetie please be careful. Craigslist is a dark and dangerous place.

[1978dd]

Originally Posted by Jensitive22

I've been lonely, isolated and unhappy for quite a while. My dying marriage is taking its last gasps, but necessity requires us to live together with the "decomposing" relationship for now. I thought, "What's good for the goose is good for the gander". If the man I am living with is going to sext women, I am going to reach out for some emotional companionship. Yesterday I put a post on Craig's List in the Personals under Platonic. I made it abundantly clear I was not seeking anything sexual, but just wanted someone to text or email. Someone to connect with on an emotional level, a friend.


So far I've gotten over twenty responses and they are still coming today. I'm amazed...and a little concerned/afraid. This was how my mania started 8 years ago. Yes, I have some emotional needs that are NOT being met, but how do I do this safely and responsibly?

Sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. You sound pretty vulnerable emotionally. Most guys are probably looking for uncomplicated sex, although I have had female friends as friends only. Please be careful!!

[Sunflower123]

I'm glad you've nixed the Craig's List idea. I was worried about your safety.