[Victoria'smom]

I don’t know what to do. I don’t feel I need a T anymore or my T sucks no idea which. I’m not fond of my dr. but I don’t mind that because I only see him 4x a year or less. I’m stable I guess at least for the last 2 weeks but more meds won’t help. I have nothing to say to T and her suggestions don’t fit as solutions. She just doesn’t “get” my family. Anyway I’m done.

My son doesn’t have a pdoc or T anymore but the pdoc they have for kids we don’t like. I feel like our only option is to go back to our old clinic but I don’t want to keep clinic hopping. My husband doesn’t want to leave his T but he’s not fond of our pdoc or the child pdoc. To complicate matters worse we have no availability but we need to take my son’s Sui thoughts seriously. We can only see pdocs /T’s on tuesday mornings.

If I bring this up to T she’ll recommend IOP for my son. IOP interferes with his college / friends schedule plus she’s the T for the kids IOP and I’m still not confident that she’s a decent T to begin with. I’m willing to give my T to my son but like I said I don’t think she’s a good T. Maybe she’s just not good for me? I don’t know what to do.

Having the whole family with mental illness is tough. He’s refusing to take his meds today. He’s a great kid. I don’t want to loose him. I don’t want the kids pdoc to touch his meds. I really just want him dx’d so we know what we’re dealing with. Throwing meds at him that he won’t take doesn’t help. He’s 15 I don’t want to make taking meds a fight but his life is important. I almost feel he’s given up on himself. Do I just deal with the child pdoc and give him my T? Do we change clinics yet again? What would you do if you were in this situation?

[~Christina]

If he is talking suicide even with no plan he need help right now Not tomorrow or next week .. Today..

I hope he stays safe but refusing meds isnt going to help matters

[Victoria'smom]

He told us Friday night. The earliest we can call for an appointment is Tuesday morning. The fastest we can get in is through our current clinic. I'm worried their kids pdoc would make it worse. I don't want to do a knee jerk reaction so it doesn't scare him into not telling us in the future but I want him safe.

[~Christina]

If it were my Daughter @ age 15 I would have gone to the ER .. No waiting.

Who cares if IOP interrups his schooling.

Waiting to see a T would be unacceptable to me.

Just my opinion of course

[Victoria'smom]

I think he's felt like this for awhile. We'll see where it lands us Tuesday. I don't want to over-react. I think if I took him to the ER would make him turn away from telling us again. He finally took his meds.

[HALLIEBETH87]

Haven't you mentioned before that he is sometime
Impulsive-as all teens are? I personally wouldn't take chances because most parents don't get a clue that a suicide attempt is coming.

[Victoria'smom]

He can be impulsive at times.

[UpDownAround]

We had this experience and went to the ER once and to the crisis assessment center the other time (two different kids). Once my son talked suicide in an online chat after midnight and then fell asleep. One of his friends did the right thing. I have never been so scared in my life as I was running up the stairs to check on him after the police woke me up at 3 am, banging on my door. I would not take the chance. I have also been to the ER with one of them who did take something and then came and told me. What really sucks is it is pretty clear whose genes are to blame.

[Victoria'smom]

I'm going to talk to my husband tonight if I stay up late enough tonight. I'll see what he says. I think we'll talk to my son tomorrow about what he wants to do. I don't want to over react but he needs to take his meds until he can see a dr.

[delanceyst]

Take him to the ER where they will most likely put him on a hold and even better yet, have him go to a behavioural hospital where he will learn so much. One of the greatest decisions my parents did for me when I was about his age. I missed school, but at that age, you can easily make up for it.

[UpDownAround]

Originally Posted by Miguel'smom

... I don't want to over react ...

IMO, that's not possible.

[Shazerac]

I don't think there is any such thing as over reacting to suicidal thoughts. what will you do if he doesn't make it til Teusday?

[Wild Coyote]

Lots of sound advice from our friends here.

As a mom, you must be so very concerned.

You and your family are on my mind.
Much Love to each of you!

[Victoria'smom]

He says he doesn't want the ER it's not that desperate. That he'll take his meds until seeing a new therapist/pdoc. IOP is an option if he can't see a pdoc soon. That the frequency of the thoughts have gone down. I just know if I went to the ER every time I had thoughts I'd live there.

[wildflowerchild25]

Originally Posted by Miguel'smom

He says he doesn't want the ER it's not that desperate. That he'll take his meds until seeing a new therapist/pdoc. IOP is an option if he can't see a pdoc soon. That the frequency of the thoughts have gone down. I just know if I went to the ER every time I had thoughts I'd live there.

I agree, if I had to go to the er for thoughts I might as well move in. If my mom had taken me every time I had thoughts I would have lived at home a whole lot less than I already did. I hope he can be honest with you and let you know if they get worse.

[~Christina]

I just don't understand your being so hesitant about making sure you're son is okay and safe.

It only takes 5 mins to end a life

This is triggering me so I have to avoid this thread

I hope Miguel stays safe

[Victoria'smom]

I'm hesitant because he trusted us enough to tell us and he's had thoughts for a while. He just didn't tell his T, pdoc, or us. His dad certainly doesn't want to take him. The er is the last place to go when all other options are exhausted. I know I'll be heartbroken if anything happens but he trusted me, now I have to trust him.

[rwwff]

Something to think about, not meant critically as I know its sensitive; but he may have told you that information so that you could make the decision that he could not make himself.

Only you are close enough to make that call though.

[Sunflower123]

I'm sure you've kept him under close surveillance. Tuesday morning I would call and get him into the place that has the first available appointment. Tell them it is an emergency. That may mean your current center. You may need to keep an eye on whether or not he's consistently taking his meds. . I hope you can get him some help tomorrow. Sending big hugs.

hey.

how is your son doing?

were you able to get an appointment?

I hope he's okay?

Can you maybe ask your son what he wants?

[Wild Coyote]

(((((( Miguelsmom and Family ))))))

Thinking of you. Hoping all is working out for the best!


WC

[Unrigged64072835]

I have a daughter who has anxiety and depression. When she was a teenager, she would tell us one thing and tell the T/pdoc something else. It was tough making her do those things like take meds and talk, but she did.

She's over 18 now, and about to go off my health insurance next year when she turns 21. I hope she will take up her own coverage by then, because she's still anxious and can't learn how to drive because of panic attacks. She's too scared to use the phone to make an appointment. She still doesn't know what to say, even if I coach her through it.

Despite all that she has built a good support system and she uses that when she needs it. We still support her as well with some things. She wants to be independent but she has a way to go on that.