[xRavenx]

Does anyone else feel lonely over this holiday season? I feel I have to hide my emotions and act a certain way in order to be accepted by family or the people around me. It's hard to fake everything. There are some people in my life who don't know how to be supportive and positive. You can only fake feeling a certain way for so long around others. It's also hard struggling with loss, especially with limited support.

Also, I am wondering if anyone can relate to the feeling of being alone, even when you are around people? Sometimes being around others makes me feel even more lonely, and I am not sure why.

Basically, I'm wondering what are you trying to do to cope with loneliness or BP symptoms during this time of year?

[Victoria'smom]

Even around family I'm on here. I go to bed early and wake of late so I don't have to pretend as much. Sometimes I nap because it's so exhausting.

[tecomsin]

I am all alone this holiday season for the first time. I haven't the will to get out to any group events where I don't really know people and no one I know invited me to Christmas and my son is travelling and I didn't want to drag him into my despair so

I'm trying not to flip out and just hang on thru tomorrow

[xRavenx]

Originally Posted by tecomsin

I am all alone this holiday season for the first time. I haven't the will to get out to any group events where I don't really know people and no one I know invited me to Christmas and my son is travelling and I didn't want to drag him into my despair so

I'm trying not to flip out and just hang on thru tomorrow

True, it's almost over. New Year's is a trigger too for me, forcing me to kind of reflect on this year. It wasn't a good one for me. Anyway, hang in there.

[Carmina]

Yes very much

[Guiness187055]

This is the first christmas where it is just me and my wife no other family.

[tecomsin]

Originally Posted by xRavenx

True, it's almost over. New Year's is a trigger too for me, forcing me to kind of reflect on this year. It wasn't a good one for me. Anyway, hang in there.

Thank you for reaching out. This forum is a main source of human contact for me recently and it means a lot to me. I know what you mean about the last year not being a good one and my hope that somehow next year will be better.

[Fuzzybear]

Originally Posted by xRavenx

True, it's almost over. New Year's is a trigger too for me, forcing me to kind of reflect on this year. It wasn't a good one for me. Anyway, hang in there.

Thanks for this thread.. New Year can be a trigger for me as well (the forcing to reflect kind of thing...)

[tecomsin]

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

Thanks for this thread.. New Year can be a trigger for me as well (the forcing to reflect kind of thing...)

Yes, I also wanted to thank xravenx for starting this thread. I didn't have the guts to start one myself, to admit how lonely and alone I am this holiday season.

[Teddy Bear]

I have a supportive family but I'm lonely I sometimes wish I had a girlfriend

[bpforever1]

I am all alone today and it is Christmas day. So, I ate well at a restaurant. I ate herb roast chicken, dutch apple pie, and coffee. I am happy. My online man is coming tomorrow. I am not expecting anything. I, of course, hope it goes well. I am happy now by myself. I was wondering who needs a man? Oh well. I got myself into this situation. I will try to resolve it. Merry Xmas!!

[emgreen]

I don't get lonely; when I was living alone the best Christmas I ever had was the one where I laid around all day & ordered a pizza - I couldn't deal with family, & I was a selfish twerp. Seriously, though, I get really depressed beginning about this time, & I find myself losing friends because I lose contact with them because of my self-imposed isolation. So far, this has been a pretty rough year. When I start to feel like I'm done hibernating I find it hard to re-establish those friendships. I wouldn't say I'm lonely...but I often find myself alone.

When I feel a little lonely, I think about how hard relationships are. I just don’t think I have the emotional energy to do it anymore.

Then I find a distraction.

As far as feeling lonely in a crowd, I totally get that. Seeing happy people can be hard. I had a cry earlier this week thinking about my late husband, and I have some difficult dates coming up. I asked her what to do if I start crying again (at work).

She said to understand it comes in waves and will pass. Also, she said to make new traditions on those dates. I don’t think that was really super helpful. Then she said to get a prescription to get through those specific dates (my late husband’s birthday, our anniversary, and the date he passed, all in January).

I know that isn’t your question.

If I have to talk to people at a party, I’ll think of some questions ahead of time and try to remember details of what they said. It is something to keep my mind occupied.

[scatterbrained04]

I must admit this Christmas feels weird to me. This is the first Christmas ever that I have nowhere to be. Will be just my son and me. My family stuff is all on other days. I'm ok with not doing anything though. I bought stuff to cook a nice dinner. Will probably work on cleaning in my son's room because Santa brought him a TV that needs set up. Selfish reasons. He's been sleeping in my room for a long time, and I think this will help get him back in his own room.

[xRavenx]

To those who said thank you on the thread....I'm glad that you found it to be helpful. You are not alone. Thanks for all the responses here. I appreciate the support and everyone sharing their experiences.

I'm just trying my best to hang in there. To everyone, I hope your day goes well. Merry Christmas, happy holidays.

[tecomsin]

Originally Posted by xRavenx

To those who said thank you on the thread....I'm glad that you found it to be helpful. You are not alone. Thanks for all the responses here. I appreciate the support and everyone sharing their experiences.

I'm just trying my best to hang in there. To everyone, I hope your day goes well. Merry Christmas, happy holidays.

Your posts have meant so much to me today. I'm getting through without falling completely apart. I took a shower and cleaned the kitchen. A neighbor brought me over xmas dinner, which was very nice. We don't really get along but I do appreciate her kindness and knowing I am not completely alone. I texted with my small family. My son is well and enjoying his travelling after he graduated from uni. I'm glad not to be bringing him down. It is touch and go but tomorrow at least I can say christmas is over.

[IttyBit]

Originally Posted by xRavenx

Does anyone else feel lonely over this holiday season? I feel I have to hide my emotions and act a certain way in order to be accepted by family or the people around me. It's hard to fake everything. There are some people in my life who don't know how to be supportive and positive. You can only fake feeling a certain way for so long around others. It's also hard struggling with loss, especially with limited support.

Also, I am wondering if anyone can relate to the feeling of being alone, even when you are around people? Sometimes being around others makes me feel even more lonely, and I am not sure why.

Basically, I'm wondering what are you trying to do to cope with loneliness or BP symptoms during this time of year?

Hallelujah! This day is almost over! Yes, I feel as you do. Many of us do. How do I cope with the loneliness? I watch my shrinks..Niles and Frasier Crane.

Yes, I am serious. Netflix is a godsend. And so is nature and being outside.