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Jan 22, 2018, 12:44 PM
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My wife is ill and wont get help and has delusions that are beyond comprehension. She has chosen to divorce me based on her beliefs. Has anybody ever run into a spouse or significant other who is ill who refuses to get help?
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Jan 22, 2018, 01:13 PM
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Do you have the option to reach out to her family or a trusted friend?
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Jan 22, 2018, 01:20 PM
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Well... I guess I'm sort-of a spouse who is ill who perhaps "declines" as opposed to refuses to get help. The difference, I guess is that, from what you wrote, it sounds as though your wife is more ill than I am. And my wife isn't particularly concerned about whether I seek help or not. But then I'm also not taking steps to divorce her either.
 Unfortunately, this is a situation people come here to PC with periodically. You're certainly not alone in that... cold comfort I'm quite sure. Sadly, there's probably not much you can do about this. If your wife has chosen to follow this path, that may just be the way it's going to be.  Here are links to some articles from PsychCentral's archives on the subject of surviving divorce. Perhaps something in them will be of some help: https://psychcentral.com/blog/lettin...up-or-divorce/ https://psychcentral.com/blog/7-ways...ter-a-divorce/ https://psychcentral.com/lib/extremi...se-of-divorce/ https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...after-divorce/ https://psychcentral.com/lib/surviving-your-breakup/ I wish you well...  
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Jan 22, 2018, 01:28 PM
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She wont listen to you if her delusions are about you. Depending on the friend she probably wont believe them either. You'll have to wait until she has some clarity.
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Jan 22, 2018, 01:28 PM
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When I was most recently severely depressed it took 5 separate friends telling me I should talk to someone before I did. Does anyone else in her life see the problem and could talk to her?
In the end you can't help those who don't want to help themselves. Hugs. |
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Jan 22, 2018, 01:41 PM
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I was ill and in treatment. My wife was increasingly being abusive, refusing to get treatment, and it was to be all mine to work on the relationship. I divorced her. My health and life improved dramatically.
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Jan 22, 2018, 01:46 PM
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Thats where Im kinda at. Very sad about it but she is a very abusive woman and refuses to see her illness. Thank you my friend.
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Jan 22, 2018, 01:47 PM
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No. Shes turned them all againts me by convincing them of her delusions.
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Jan 22, 2018, 02:01 PM
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So yeah, I get the turning against. Her only other friend is a self admitting sociopath. I had no one. I was the only one that had an option to save me. It was a difficult decision, but one of the best I ever made. |
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Jan 22, 2018, 02:13 PM
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Im at that point as well. Im just trying to get my things and move out and get a place situated for myself and my kiddos. Funny when the bat***t crazy one is the ne saing Im crazy. Good advice friend.
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Jan 22, 2018, 09:03 PM
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If she is harmful to you or herself a hospital can put her on a 5150 ( I think that’s the numbers) hold.
I’m sorry your going through this , yes get yourself somewhere safe
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Jan 22, 2018, 09:11 PM
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Sometimes you have to be selfish, and save yourself.
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Jan 23, 2018, 04:43 PM
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Yes, it certainly doesn’t make sense to go down with the ship if there’s a life boat big enough for you and the kiddos...
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Jan 23, 2018, 05:27 PM
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