I'm the youngest of 8. But one of my sisters is rail thin and drinking herself to death. I just found out today.

She lives in Oregon but came here to go on a trip with an old love interest. He saw her, she was drunk and said I'm not taking you anywhere in your condition.

She called a friend and ended up staying in a hotel that night. The next day one of my other sisters went and picked her up. She's been staying there. She weighs 100 lbs and eats like a snack a day and just drinks the rest of the time.

So 2 of my sisters called an ambulance to see if they could get her hospitalized, and basically the hospital said she's a grown woman and if she stops abruptly drinking she will probably die. They recommended treatment where she can get a medical detox.

She's refusin and is mad at my sisters and still thinks she's fat.

I saw her on Christmas and she was very thin, but my sisters say no she's skin and bones.

She's going back to Oregon tomorrow. I'm worried, my whole family is that she won't live another month without help. I feel so powerless...

[tecomsin]

I'm so sorry for you, your sister and the rest of your family. It's a terrible addiction. I don't know what to say, just wanting to say that I really do feel for you. That's a tough situation.

Originally Posted by tecomsin

I'm so sorry for you, your sister and the rest of your family. It's a terrible addiction. I don't know what to say, just wanting to say that I really do feel for you. That's a tough situation.

Thank you.

[bizi]

I am so sorry too. alcoholism and an eating disorder.
so sad....
(((((HUGS)))))
bizi
Do you have a therapist to talk to?

Yes, but honestly she's not that great. I use my family for support mainly. But they're at a loss too now. it's heartbreaking.

[bizi]

I am so sorry.
I am glad that your family is supportive of each other.
What a blessing.
bizi
(((((HUGS)))))

Thank you bizi.

[~Christina]

I’m so sorry she struggles with such a very hard addiction to quit.

Hopefully she will decide to go Ip somewhere they can detox her safely.

Many hugs

Thank you christina. I don't think she will tho. The lives with one of my other sisters who is a high functioning alcolic. Just retired, been very successful in life, but gets drunk every night. I can't believe she let lisa get in the shape she is in! It's a disaster....

[SorryShaped]

It's truly horror to watch. I was weak and turned my back on a friend's alcoholism, after taking her to rehab and taking care of her and her animals regularly for nearly 5 years. I drew the line when she tried to pick up my son to help her do something, drunk.
I do know that you are talking about your sister and want her back. Would a family intervention help?

My 2 sisters tried an intervention. Maybe with the whole family it would work idk...thanks for the suggestion tho.

[Wild Coyote]

I have a brother in similar condition. It's heart-breaking. Unless the person wants to get help, there's so little we can do. As a family, we keep trying, keep expressing concern and urging "recovery."

Thinking of you and your sisters.
Please do keep us updated on how you are doing.

WC

[Nola0250]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. You ARE powerless in this situation. It sucks more that I can say.

Having left my alcoholic husband after struggling with his addiction for 7 years (that's me struggling, not him. He was fine with it), I finally realized that we are all powerless to stop the ones we love from hurting themselves or killing themselves with alcohol. They will always find a way to get it no matter what you do. THEY have to want to change. Unless or until they do, there is absolutely nothing that you or anyone can do that will make a difference. I nearly killed myself trying to save my husband. I finally realized that some people don't have a rock bottom. Or at least, I hit mine before he hit his, and decided I needed to save myself - the only one I can save.

Originally Posted by Wild Coyote

I have a brother in similar condition. It's heart-breaking. Unless the person wants to get help, there's so little we can do. As a family, we keep trying, keep expressing concern and urging "recovery."

Thinking of you and your sisters.
Please do keep us updated on how you are doing.

WC

Thank you wild coyote. I will try and keep everyone updated. Problem is my sister that she's going to be back living with, doesn't tell me much. But my other sisters will keep me updated hopefully.

[Unrigged64072835]

That's so hard to experience. My mother was an alcoholic until she died of ovarian cancer. We all thought she would have liver failure first. Even so sometimes that's what it takes.

Thinking of you and your family.

[Standup2me]

I have heard that Al-Anon can be a very good source of support.
We are powerless over another person's actions, but we have power over our own.
I have a friend that has found great comfort in it.