I make a purchase, therefore I am manic. This is the opinion and conclusion those around me jump to.

I have been wearing the same boots for near ten years. It was time to get some new. Whoa! My family has flipped.

[BastetsMuse]

Family can overreact to anything that remotely resembles manic behavior, especially since manic behavior is just normal behaviior exaggerated.

Did you have the money to buy the boots? Did you get a good price on them? You know if you were manic or not. Take it easy if you weren't.

Perhaps you really have to sit down and talk to them about the reality of the matter. If your purchase is not excessive and has a real reasonable purpose, then let them know that and ask them to prove that buying new boots after not buying anything much for ages is unreasonable.

Almost every single day of the week, save maybe Sunday, there is at least one box on our front porch from purchases my husband made. He is buying and buying and buying online all of the time. When we go to the grocery store together he always wants two carts, even though we are a two person household. He always wants to buy mass quantities of things on sale, like Kleenex, paper towels, etc. He has become obsessed with this stupid "Yes!" soup and we now have about 50 cans of it between our basement and garage. The thing is, he is 100% positively without a doubt NOT bipolar. He's like the opposite of bipolar. I am the one with bipolar disorder, and I am one of more frugal people I know. When I become manic, I do spend more than usual, but that is still usually nothing compared to my husband's regular spending. Hyperspending is a form of impulsivity in mania, but the fact is that not all manic people are hyperspenders. Maybe instead, they do other impulsive things. I do. I mean, if you don't like to spend stable, you may not like to spend that much manic. Hyperspending is not a guaranteed symptom of mania.

[Nammu]

NEWS ALERT: BP person spent money....just like a regular folk.......not manic! BP people can have good days and not be manic!

[Unrigged64072835]

I sometimes overspend, and so does my husband. My closet is crammed with clothes, and half of the basement is full of his projects, electronics, chemicals, tools, etc. This month I was going to spend my allowance on something and I didn't. I don't need this thing until May or June, depending on when I start taking photos again. He's not bipolar and I've been stable for a while. For me it's "the thrill of the hunt" (as new T puts it), and my husband has lots of projects he's interested in.

I don't think buying a pair of needed boots is cause for a family intervention. I have to buy shoes every 6-12 months because I pronate and the sole wears out in spots.

[Guiness187055]

I know the feeling anything I do my wife thinks I am getting manic. I try to explain to her I am sedated like an elephant and mania is very unlikely at this time. I can be normal just like everyone else too.

[wiretwister]

I never buy anything .... I have pooritus ... fear of being poor ... quess I am cured ...

= spent
Will borrow some cash from mom
Pay back 2 weeks later
Depressed
Do it all again

[bizi]

I am a foot care nurse, I give pedicures to the elderly in their homes. I use toe nail polish for those who like it. about a year ago, I went into a sally's beauty store to find that they are discontinuing my little bottles. I panicked and bought up the on sale ones in multiple colors, hot pink, orange and various colors. I went to 4-5 stores around town and near cities. I must have bought 350 bottles. all on sale of course that was the rational/justification. When my little spending spree was done....I shook my head...not many 80-90 year olds want hot pink or orange nails.
I ended up taking 100 bottles of bright orange to the good will and asked if they wanted them. Of course they would.
Sigh I still have a box full of polish. sigh I let them pick out their colors, rarely does some one want hot pink.
sigh
This is clearly me hypomanic, I could not stop it from happening.
bizi

[amicus_curiae]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

I make a purchase, therefore I am manic. This is the opinion and conclusion those around me jump to.

I have been wearing the same boots for near ten years. It was time to get some new. Whoa! My family has flipped.

That’s probably a safe assumption for me.

I bought a bigger and better iPad Pro yesterday. And two new $139 short-sleeve shirts. Tomorrow I’ll see the first overdrafts. If I buy food and pay my AT&T bill I’ll be $1,600 overdrawn.

I continue to believe that my relatives will bail me out. I’m unable to control my spending.

You know, I actually get a high from having decades-old possessions! I’ve a Barbour Border jacket that I keep up and have done for decades. Doesn’t mean that I would ever think of buying a new waxed cotton jacket!

That sucks, being accused like that

[bizi]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

I make a purchase, therefore I am manic. This is the opinion and conclusion those around me jump to.

I have been wearing the same boots for near ten years. It was time to get some new. Whoa! My family has flipped.

I am sorry that they made it an issue for you.
bizi

[amicus_curiae]

Originally Posted by Fharraige

I sometimes overspend, and so does my husband. My closet is crammed with clothes, and half of the basement is full of his projects, electronics, chemicals, tools, etc. This month I was going to spend my allowance on something and I didn't. I don't need this thing until May or June, depending on when I start taking photos again. He's not bipolar and I've been stable for a while. For me it's "the thrill of the hunt" (as new T puts it), and my husband has lots of projects he's interested in.

I don't think buying a pair of needed boots is cause for a family intervention. I have to buy shoes every 6-12 months because I pronate and the sole wears out in spots.

The ‘crammed’ thing. There are items that I can never stop buying multiples. Casual but *****in’ cool short-sleeve shirts for summer. Is two-dozen too many? Better get two Apple pencils... just in case.

Today I’ve been overrun with the clothing that will not fit into my generously-over-enlarged bedroom closet — it’s piled at the foot of my bed. I feel... grungy (not like Seattle-grunge but nasty-grungy). I am running out of room and I haven’t been able to stop.

As to what I feel when I shop; yes, it’s partly the thrill of the hunt but there is a totality of the cycle that can begin with the hunt and end with an ambivalence for the item.

I can’t stop.

[pirilin]

Every day I jump from Fasttech to Gearbest to Banggood to eBay and land in Amazon.
A cheap day is 75 bucks. Am I manic?. No. I needed this stuff since I moved from Miami.
It's bad luck to bring old stuff into a new house.

[bizi]

Originally Posted by pirilin

Every day I jump from Fasttech to Gearbest to Banggood to eBay and land in Amazon.
A cheap day is 75 bucks. Am I manic?. No. I needed this stuff since I moved from Miami.
It's bad luck to bring old stuff into a new house.

I have never heard that before!
bizi

[VerMOZZica]

I am bipolar and I overspend too. I am very impulsive when it comes to shopping. I am not always hypo when I do that. In fact I spend most of the time in depression. I think I compulsively shop because it makes me feel better in the moment. I always beat myself up later about it. This is why I hate bedtime because as soon as lie my head on the pillow I go over and over it in my head and tortures me. But the cycle repeats itself.

[otroo]

Just show them what a real manic spending spree really is.

[RainyDay107]

Originally Posted by Nammu

NEWS ALERT: BP person spent money....just like a regular folk.......not manic! BP people can have good days and not be manic!

Originally Posted by otroo

Just show them what a real manic spending spree really is.

Yikes, mine was 60k. Scorched earth. My brother....bought and traded FIVE cars in one DAY! I wish I could turn back time on that episode...but lesson learned.

That said, I have trouble seeing how you making a purchase is unreasonable or mania if your living expenses are covered and your debt isn’t high.

Unless they legally control your finances, I’d keep my shopping to myself. If you do need help in keeping an eye on spending...set your banking to limit cash access via your accounts. You can dump into CDs, mutual funds, auto deposit into a savings account, etc., and keep a readily accessible set balance in a checking account.

[RainyDay107]

Originally Posted by pirilin

Every day I jump from Fasttech to Gearbest to Banggood to eBay and land in Amazon.
A cheap day is 75 bucks. Am I manic?. No. I needed this stuff since I moved from Miami.
It's bad luck to bring old stuff into a new house.

Congratulations on the move! Hop on DealNews when you jump. Amazon Prime is the shizzle.

lol...I cautiously checked out banggood!

[Travelinglady]

Have you shown them your old shoes?

[Fuzzybear]

The same boots for about 10 years. But buying new boots is a sign of mania? I think the family are maybe “nuts” ...

[Shazerac]

Being afraid to buy something for fear that we may seem manic sucks!