[Crook32]

I was hospitalized 6 times in two years so I took a lot of time off of work. I have been back now for 7 months. Things have just been terrible. The last 18 months I was dealing with a manager that I worked well with for a decade and all the sudden he trashed me on two reviews and I ended up not getting a raise because of him. They wouldn’t even allow me to contest anything he said. So about 2 months ago I had enough and had to leave his projects. But my two bosses always believed him over me even when I had proof in writing that I was correct.

So everything has been stressful because I need to find projects to work on or I will lose my job. I just got yelled at today from my old boss because when starting a project I was checking my phone when emails came in because I was waiting for one that needed a quick reply. I only check when nothing was going on or I wasn’t needed. She said I looked disinterested and made a bad impression. Although I did everything they asked and even made suggestions for improvements. If I wasn’t paying attention how could I have done that.

I am told I have to make more decisions and recommendations. But when I do I am either ignored or told to be quiet because I stepped on someone’s ego. PhDs are so sensitive.

So now I have insomnia and crashing into depression. It has become obvious that I am not wanted. They know I have enough evidence of bullying and harassment so I don’t think they will fire me. I just think their plan is to make me miserable enough that I leave.

I just don’t know what to do without going off the handle.

[Shazerac]

Sounds like you are on a difficult situation. Maybe if it’s possible, start looking into other jib options. Usually when things get that bad at a job it’s time to move on.

[Wild Coyote]

I am sorry you are going through this. I agree with Shaz, it appears it's time to move to greener pastures. Sounds miserable.


WC

[BipolaRNurse]

The handwriting is on the wall. Think about looking for another job ASAP. You don't want to be without work if something happens to this job; prospective employers prefer applicants who are already working. Good luck.

[N0b0dy]

I don't like having problems at work, I'm the type that WILL fly off the handle and get myself fired, especially after exhausting all other avenues. I'm also evil and will make people as miserable as they make me, until I leave, so I will be memorable asf. My suggestion is: stand up and speak up. My other suggestion is: don't listen to my suggestion, unless you are at a point where you have nothing to lose. I tend to be impulsive, but I am also good at standing up for myself. In my experience (and I've had a lot of jobs), if they can't fire you, that is exactly what they will do....make YOU miserable until you want to leave. So I guess the question is, are you going to let them?

[Crook32]

I have been in bed all weekend. I get anxious just thinking about going to work tomorrow. I am going to have a review soon and it could be my third bad one in a row. It is all because of one guy. He has singlehandedly ruined my career. Should I go to the ombudsman?

Originally Posted by Crook32

Should I go to the ombudsman?

I had a good experience when i was in university going to our provincial ombudsman re a hiring decision for a Summer job with the government. I got the job. The ombudsman said they had probably handed it to some minister's relative. Hugs, Jane.

[Crook32]

I stayed in bed and barely ate all weekend. I used to love this job. Now I feel like I have to account for every breath I take. People told me to document everything and keep good notes but I have been so depressed that I never had the motivation to do it. I am so pathetic.

[emgreen]

You're not pathetic, Crook. I think many of us have been there & done that. I certainly have. Things will improve one way or another. Some people say that when the gods close a door, they open a window...just make sure it's not a 10th storey window! Kidding, of course. Hang in there (don't ya hate it when people write that???).

[pirilin]

Time for Indeed.

[Asteya]

I had a stressful job and was so relieved when I left. You should be comfortable and confident at work. I didn’t feel like this all the time, when I couldn’t perform my best. I’m learning to be patient and wait things out, I believe every thing is in phases. I don’t know what kind of job you have as you are not saying much. I do with you to find yourself.

[Crook32]

Problem is most places that have jobs I am qualified for are an hour and a half away. I am trying to update my resume but it is hard when you can’t concentrate and think so poorly about yourself.