[Mini2018]

When your friends with someone with bipolar, I've bipolar and so have they...when they dissapear during depressive phases, it takes a huge toll on me emotionally. I worry, I stress, I wonder if there's anything I can do and hours seem like years whilst I wait for them to make contact again.

What's normal in a double best friend bipolar situation. Can both be codependant? Why do I fear they're never coming back to the point its the last thing I check at night and first thing in the morning, or they've lost interest. I'm trying to work out what's normal, just missing a friend, and what's codependant with bipolar insecurities attached.

Can someone help please?

[captaineo]

Hi Mini2018,

I actually don’t know if this helps you. But I actually live alone and suffer from depression. I think missing your friend is normal, specially when you have that level of friendship you have. But you have to put yourself first as well, and pray for your friend and continue to do what is best. But don’t make that dependency into an additional problem for you. I feel alone and miss my friends all the time, but times change and some how everyone moved on with their lives. That’s life. I do wish you have many many friends and keep the friend you have who seems very special to you. Just don’t obsess on it. Many hugs

[Mini2018]

I want to thank you for what you've written, and the kind way you've expressed your thoughts. I have energy for but one good friend, I've tried two in the past and failed. Can barely keep acquaintances, or stay in touch with family. So yes, I do put most of my eggs in one basket. It's unhealthy because it leaves me very vulnerable, and means I am hurt unintentionally. That puts unnecessary stress on our friendship.

You mentioned missing friends and loved ones, and being lonely. How does one get past that? Is it possible to be that comfortable in your own skin to not need anyone? I've struggled with this my whole life, attracting ones previously who manipulated me into gaining the affection and attention they sought, then leaving me and moving on. This is different. I don't want to mess it up.

[pirilin]

It's not them who disappear in my case. It's me. I also want them to call me instead of me calling them.