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May 09, 2018, 07:29 PM
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Dealing with so much anxiety and depression. Mother's day is in 2 days and I really really dont want to go with everything in me. When I went to Christmas with all those people around, I was friendly and socialized for 2 hours then went downstairs and couldnt bear to go upstairs for anything. But then I wasn't depressed. Now I'm depressed, social anxiety up. I bought my mom a nice mother's day gift. I put time and thought into it. But I can't be around all those people in this state. It sets me backward. And my brain keeps daydreaming all day to avoid the stress. It's like I'm living in a fantasy world. If I don't go, my mom will ask me if I hate her. She's done that to me in the past. I don't just want to take extra ativan because then I'm cut short at the end of the month. And this time I can't just put on a happy face with all those people around. I turned my phone off all last week just to avoid having to talk to anyone. I want to do it again but then I would be avoiding the problem even further. I'm in between therapists and dont see my pdoc for 2 months so there's nothing I can do on that end.
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#2
May 09, 2018, 08:24 PM
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Hello there,
I would not stress about it. I would drop or mail the gift to your mom and call it a day. At some point she is going to have to understand your just not good with groups of people. I explained it to my mom. She does not understand why but when I say no I’m not attending...accept it and shut up.
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#3
May 09, 2018, 10:20 PM
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May 09, 2018, 11:28 PM
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If you go, give yourself permission to leave. You don’t have to try to make anyone happy.
Thank your mother for understanding and caring about you 
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May 10, 2018, 06:06 AM
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That’s tough... you should maybe try and plan a time to meet with your mom one on one?? It’s hard to say by your story if you even want too...
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May 10, 2018, 07:03 AM
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Sorry you're having a hard time with Mother's Day. We usually don't do a big celebration for it, but this year, because of when it falls, we are having a celebration for one of my niece's and one of my nephew's birthdays. Usually, it's not that big a deal with my mom, but my dad gets a lot to be around (I think he is undiagnosed Aspergers), and my aunts & uncles all have opposite political opinions from my husband and me and are constantly voicing them. Plus, I have an aunt (never had children) constantly telling me how I "should" be parenting my daughter. Grr.
But actual Mother's Day itself isn't that bad for me now that I have a daughter and am a mom myself. We usually go out to eat someplace I like or my husband will take my daughter out and give me some peace. I think it's a bit easier when you have kids yourself on Mother's Day.
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May 10, 2018, 10:23 AM
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I haven't even thought of Mother's Day, and I don't think my daughter thought of it either. With birthdays, anniversary, and Christmas that's enough holidays for me. We're just busy doing other things.
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May 10, 2018, 11:49 AM
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I can't read without paragraphs, but I gather your mother still is alive. And for how long?.
Enjoy her while she is still living.
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May 10, 2018, 09:27 PM
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"...all have opposite political opinions from my husband and me..."
Thank you for your insight. (Also thank you for using the pronoun "me" correctly. No one seems capable of doing it anymore.) |
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May 14, 2018, 05:05 PM
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I did go to mothers day and it was hard but my mom was so happy with my gift and my gift was alot better than everyone else's. Just sayin
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