[rocknrolladdict86]

are there any people here who can't have general topics to talk about in daily life? by the way is it a bad thing to be sad about

[Victoria'smom]

When I was heavily medicated I'd hardly talk. I'm not good with small talk in general. I felt like I had no personality. It was very sad.

[ObiRonKenobi]

I have always been bad at "small talk". I end up talking about work or listening to others. But as I think about it, what really are "general topics". When I hear others, they talk about sports, news, politics, or other specific topics. Maybe you can identify similar interests with people that you want to conversate with. Recent movies might be a good start?

Originally Posted by rocknrolladdict86

are there any people here who can't have general topics to talk about in daily life? by the way is it a bad thing to be sad about

It's not a bad thing to be sad about. You feel how you feel (you know what they say, you can't control how you feel, but you can control what you do about it...)

I'm so-so with small talk. Depends on the topic. Also depends where I am mood-wise. When I am very depressed forget about it. If I'm hypo, I'll yap with (at, lol) almost anyone(!)

But I almost never say anything much about myself. It's too much of a minefield of secrets and cognitive dissonance. I might tell you if I missed the bus, but you won't hear about anything personal.

So even though I don't like small talk in general (when people start talking about their kids and relatives and like what, you're supposed to be able to keep it all straight(?!), I just want to throw myself under some shrubbery! Or a table!), light stuff is about all anyone gets out of me. Ironic, eh?

[rocknrolladdict86]

thx for your advices and may be warnings. i will take care of them