Bipolar check in #39

I got more good news from my sister. Though Dad may not be going directly to an alcohol rehab (he was rejected for medical reasons), he has agreed to temporarily stay in an assisted living place. He was also connected with an AA member from his town, who will be there for him even before his return, and upon his return. He needs THAT kind of friend, not the other so-called types.

I told my sister that we have to clear some clutter in his house. Sis says she'll work on Dad's paperwork. We NEED my brother to clear his crap out of the dining room. I'll work a bit on cleaning things like the inside of his refrigerator, microwave, and things like that that a cleaning person wouldn't touch. I told my sister and brother that if my father continues to be serious about recovery, I will pay for a deep super cleaning of his house by professional house cleaners. I will also pay for a professional outfit to come and super clean all of his rugs. I told my sister that the house must look different when Dad eventually goes home. I want to go to a place like Marshall's and buy some inexpensive things that will help make a difference, like new place mats, new bathroom stuff, a new blanket for the sofa, and the like. I will even create a beautiful flower arrangement for his dining room table, and make some goodies for his eventual return home. I'd like my siblings to help pay for the Marshall's type stuff. I want my brother, who lives with my Dad, to make more of an effort not to clutter things. Ideally, I'd like my brother to clean up some of the junk that's in my dad's backyard. It's starting to look like Sanford & Son's junkyard.

The social worker said that my father has agreed not to drive for a while after he returns home. He won't renew his lease on his Mercedes. That still leaves him with the truck, but I told my sister we should ask to hold his keys for him. He has another car that's on stilts (or whatever). I think my brother should finally do something with it, or get rid of it, with Dad's permission.

My brother is a large part of the problem in terms of mess. My sister and I need to figure out how best to work with him. By the way, I don't intend to pay the cleaning people to clean my brother's room. If he wants that, he needs to chip in a little money on it. I doubt it!

I am being a bit aggressive about the cleanliness of my father's house. I have the cleanest house in my immediate family. Before my brother moved in with my father, and my father became ill, Dad's house wasn't that bad at all.

@randal: you're a scamp, with your lust for Mary! It means you are alive and well! Made me laugh!

I'm still feeling well. Last night i attended a planning meeting for our building's Christmas event. It was billed as a "Christmas COCKTAIL PARTY" so i was really excited as i've never really been to a genuine cocktail party as an adult, just parties in my own home where i was a kid. I imagined waiters circulating with silver trays of champagne and hors d'oeuvres and us dressed to the nines! My mom used to make exquisite hors d'oeuvres, tiny quiche, cheese pastries, pigs-in-a-blanket, etc. She had a "no fail" recipe for pastry. Good pastry is hard to make. She would put out a whole spread, including warm ones on a giant electric warming plate. I read in a novel about this family that would have nothing but hors d'oeuvres for dinner one night a month and i thought that was a great idea!

I was looking so forward to our Christmas cocktail party!

But alas, in the course of the meeting everything got changed to a dumb old "Christmas CELEBRATION" with dumb old crackers + cheese, veggies + dip and finger sandwiches and nothing will be replenished once it's gone -- it's all "too bad, so sad." What kind of attitude is THAT for an affluent building like ours?! SO DISAPPOINTING!!! I've been to that type of 'celebration' many times before! We all have. It's what's usually served at public gatherings at Christmas and at office Christmas parties!

Last year i and the other women in the building put on an entire Christmas DINNER! It was truly a FEAST (and i don't use that word lightly) such as i've never been to before and my dish was a hit, people had some and came back for seconds, all 6.5 liters of it went! I was overjoyed! Several people DEMANDED the recipe! And i'm just a novice cook! There was turkey and ham and shrimp rings galore! No sooner was something finished than it was replaced by another platter! There was enough for all! It made me so proud of our building! We are a really special condo building, the best kept secret in the city and i was thrilled that we put on such a spread as you would never get anywhere else!

But there is a new organizer this year and she doesn't want to do anything but decorate. She delegated everything else to people that didn't even volunteer, she just twisted their arms in front of everyone until they were so uncomfortable they finally gave in. And she's a Board member! Such a poor showing from her. And such a mediocre plan. Really disappointed.

Today i made my own solution. I bought frozen hors d'oeuvres and will get a champagne flute and a diet Sprite and have my own cocktail party with my dog! I'll wear sequins and be the lady and get her a bow and she can be the gent! I'll talk scintillating conversation to her and she can bark!

Aces!

Love to all!

Ok I just wanted to pop on and report that my Cat Scan came back clear so it’s indeed Humira ! I’m not sure how long it will take for it to clear my system. Google isn’t really given me specific time, but I see Rhuemy the 14th so he will know.

I’ll be back later to catch up with everyone

Ok I just wanted to pop on and report that my Cat Scan came back clear so it’s indeed Humira ! I’m not sure how long it will take for it to clear my system. Google isn’t really given me specific time, but I see Rhuemy the 14th so he will know.

I’ll be back later to catch up with everyone

Still struggling with breathing/asthma. I went to a work training today and no one wanted to partner with me (pairing up to practice defensive tactics). Tomorrow I see my pdoc.

I'm sorry you are going through this Christina. You are pragmatic and I'm sure you'll find a way through this.

Good morning! We have snow!!!


My aunt, who has been having heart attacks, has been transferred to 2 university hospitals. She is now at one iin a different state. This surgeon is willing to try to save her life. Any surgery is very risky at this point. Her surgery starts approx 11 am and, if all goes well, will last 4-5 hours. I hope nobody minds my asking for any prayer, positive thoughts, supportive energy, anything positive sent her way. If you are so inclined, its much appreciated.


Scooter, thinking of you! I hope all has returned to baseline.


I have a semi-busy day ahead.


I hope everyone has a fruitful day!

Polibeth, I hope your asthma eases soon. I'm sorry you have to suffer with this.


Christina, you know that I am on the side of getting people better, cheaper, and more comprehensive healthcare. I will keep pushing for that, for people like you. Hugs


Wild Coyote, I'm sorry to read that your aunt is so ill. Sending my best to her and to you and your family!

I'm going to get my hair cut today. It needs it, especially my bangs.


Yesterday, my sister called to tell me that the psychologist that visited my father at the physical rehabilitation center informed her that my father agreed to enter an inpatient alcohol rehab program upon his release from the physical rehab. I told my sis that makes me cautiously optimistic. She agreed. He can be quite fickle, so it's possible that decision will change as the day for the transfer nears. The psychologist said they are still trying to secure a bed at the alcohol rehab. She said that if they cannot get the bed right away that they do NOT want him to return home. They would rather find him space in a temporary assisted living facility. [People, places, and things are a real issue, so going home now is risky.]


I do want to add that Dad looks and sounds better after all these weeks, but it's up to him to stay that way.

Hey, guys and gals. Sorry I am not commenting on anyone else's issues today. almost no sleep in past 72 hours. Totally, wide awake. Am pretty hypomanic and just kind of trying to keep it together until Dr. C. calls me back. Sorry. Will update when I know more.

I got more good news from my sister. Though Dad may not be going directly to an alcohol rehab (he was rejected for medical reasons), he has agreed to temporarily stay in an assisted living place. He was also connected with an AA member from his town, who will be there for him even before his return, and upon his return. He needs THAT kind of friend, not the other so-called types.


I told my sister that we have to clear some clutter in his house. Sis says she'll work on Dad's paperwork. We NEED my brother to clear his crap out of the dining room. I'll work a bit on cleaning things like the inside of his refrigerator, microwave, and things like that that a cleaning person wouldn't touch. I told my sister and brother that if my father continues to be serious about recovery, I will pay for a deep super cleaning of his house by professional house cleaners. I will also pay for a professional outfit to come and super clean all of his rugs. I told my sister that the house must look different when Dad eventually goes home. I want to go to a place like Marshall's and buy some inexpensive things that will help make a difference, like new place mats, new bathroom stuff, a new blanket for the sofa, and the like. I will even create a beautiful flower arrangement for his dining room table, and make some goodies for his eventual return home. I'd like my siblings to help pay for the Marshall's type stuff. I want my brother, who lives with my Dad, to make more of an effort not to clutter things. Ideally, I'd like my brother to clean up some of the junk that's in my dad's backyard. It's starting to look like Sanford & Son's junkyard.


The social worker said that my father has agreed not to drive for a while after he returns home. He won't renew his lease on his Mercedes. That still leaves him with the truck, but I told my sister we should ask to hold his keys for him. He has another car that's on stilts (or whatever). I think my brother should finally do something with it, or get rid of it, with Dad's permission.


My brother is a large part of the problem in terms of mess. My sister and I need to figure out how best to work with him. By the way, I don't intend to pay the cleaning people to clean my brother's room. If he wants that, he needs to chip in a little money on it. I doubt it!


I am being a bit aggressive about the cleanliness of my father's house. I have the cleanest house in my immediate family. Before my brother moved in with my father, and my father became ill, Dad's house wasn't that bad at all.

Still on Prednisone - still miserable with bronchitis and I have to work a 4 day stretch starting tomorrow. Ugh.

Hi all—coming up for air...


The main news is my daughter got engaged a week ago. Fiancé is from her work and is also very creative like her. Tentatively the wedding will be in October. While it’s great it’s not boding well for my hypomania or insomnia. So taking it one day (or night) at a time. Basically putting the brakes on my brain and staying back unless she asks me for help.


Otherwise quiet as usual.


Hope all who are struggling get what they need. Love to everyone!

So the half life of Humira is 3-6 months

I’m so hoping my rheumatologist will let me know that the respiratory problem clears up much much much faster. I just can’t imagine being SOB much longer it’s already been 9 weeks

You definitely need a break. That is a long clearance time......
thinking of you tonight.
(((((((HUGS)))))))
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