I didn't take the advice

and now this has really screwed up with my day. Get a clue fuzzy bear





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love and respect


whoever said that being nice and polite doesn't pay off was probably correct. and please believe me this is not about anyone on pc..

Hi Fuzzy,

There are times when being polite pays off and times when it might not be the most effective way to handle things/people.

I feel it's important to learn to be assertive. Usually, it is possible to be polite, yet direct and clear in representing our needs, desires/goals. Have you looked into how to be assertive?

"Assertiveness is a skill regularly referred to in social and communication skills training. Being assertive means being able to stand up for your own or other people's rights in a calm and positive way, without being either aggressive, or passively accepting 'wrong.' "

There is a lot of info here:

Assertiveness - An Introduction | SkillsYouNeed'.

I am positive you can master this skill.

I prefer a genuine response over a polite one that does not match someone's internal state.

Much love to you Fuzzy

Thank you Wild Coyote and Fern. Both of your replies are very helpful to me.

Love and support for you always and forever, Fuzzy!!!!!!!!

Love and support to you bpcyclist

I really really dislike "act your age". I'll make a deal with you Fuzzybear. You tell me how a 52 year old is supposed to act and I'll tell you whether you're full of baloney juice or not. Sound good?

@Fuzzybear

I always test-out as a people-pleaser, on these scenario tests we have at my workplace. I tend to be over-polite and over-kind at times. Sometimes, its too much for others. Sometimes we have to kick a little @$$. It's hard for me to do, I imagine it's very hard for you to do. Give yourself some grace and permission to live on the edge!