[Fuzzybear]

... who intentionally violate your boundaries in the most toxic, petty, 6th grade way, the same Narcissistic jerk who preaches and judges everybody else. I did something, not to hurt him, but for MY safety and sanity.... and he could not bear the pain of not being fed by me. My heart bleeds for him.. NOT. His sneaky behaviour is calculated and not anything I can report. Nothing can be done. He had publically judged me in a mean way a year or so ago. Well dude I can see through your petty behaviours and I point two fingers right back at you, How can I get this creep out of my head

This is not about anyone here. Thanks for letting me vent. I am already in a ''depressive episode'' and I do not appreciate being treated like garbage by some low life up themselves jerk who I have always been respectful of. GRRRRRRRR

hugs and respect to all here

[Fuzzybear]

I'm allergic to pets and meds Sometimes I feel like this makes me a piece of **** I cannot take the advice which I hear and read a million times every day

If I could ''take the meds'' then that petty moron would not have got under my skin so much. They intentionally violated my boundary. UGH

[Fuzzybear]

How does this jerk ''succeed'' in making me feel like I am the ''monster'' for not ''passively'' accepting their sneaky mean crap?

[Fuzzybear]

It's ok, I'm ''over it''... this person simply confirmed my opinion of them. I am often accurate about people.

(not about anyone here)

[Fuzzybear]

I am still mad at them. I did not think they would stoop that low

[Fuzzybear]

''get over it'' fuzzy bear '' get a life'' and ''cope'' all alone in a ****ing hole

many thanks to the low life CREEP who said that to me (obviously not anyone here)

[bpcyclist]

Hugs, fuzzy. My solution to these folks is no contact ever.

[beauflow]

(((FUZZYBEAR)))
Some people like to get off on other's misery , pain, etc and some times one may feel hopelessness with dealing with these types in life. It can be difficult to remember this let alone accept it. In the end we have OUR CHOICES.

Different "tactics "/coping/actions with the people in life that we have interactions with that trigger us can very to each person and individual and situation.

Through out my life I met my share, personal and work and out in the world.
NO CONTACT only works for some of them..
However for some it's getting legal involved, because they are restless...

some it's trying best to limit interactions with

different approaches depending on the situation, the person and how the individual is doing. It's always learning, slipping some times, etc.
At least for me, there hasn't been a one and only answer for all.

Some people's advice works, other times it is unhelpful. Some times I have to dig deep in me to find what I need if I can. There's some days this only takes a moment and other times - well I've wondered- if months or that I buried a piece that just adds another layer. But thats me.

Fuzzybear,
Some people are -- i Don't know what term to use- some people say toxic, damaged, broken, -- i think today i like the term we all have our own struggles and battles- even if One may be unaware of those battles... for example a person that violates others boundaries constantly and they believe they don't do any wrong, doesn't mean that they themselves don't have a struggle- they just may not be truly aware of it to have the capacity to comprehend
the full situation.
Or some- they themselves have just lost any comprehensive thoughts with others rights-- which in this world is a struggle even if they Don't realize it.
Yes some of these types of people make it big in the world they climb, manipulate, and so on....
It sucks.

We have a choice though, do we play the game with them? Do we some how defeat them? , do we take them out ? do we try to move on with what we can learn from this? Do we hold this interaction as once again being hurt and define a piece of life, ourselves, them, etc.? And I am sure there's countless other choices and also MULTIPLE choices can be applied.

You have a life, this is life, and not every thing is so easy to just get over, no contact, some times we have to work through it... and that can be difficult.

It's hard some times for some, I have this issue.
I am sorry for the babble and with it a different opinion that's probably not helpful but many hugs and well thoughts.

[fern46]

I walk away and I do not use them as a mirror. If I cannot walk away I stand tall and do not use them as a mirror. I radiate what I am and block what I am not. Only I define myself. If any of this bothers anyone, it is not my cross to bear. I am only responsible for me. I hold compassion because it is what I would want for myself.

Hugs Fuzzy.

[*Beth*]

Originally Posted by fern46

I walk away and I do not use them as a mirror. If I cannot walk away I stand tall and do not use them as a mirror. I radiate what I am and block what I am not. Only I define myself. If any of this bothers anyone, it is not my cross to bear. I am only responsible for me. I hold compassion because it is what I would want for myself.

Hugs Fuzzy.

I agree entirely.
Big bear hugs, Fuzzy

[Mountaindewed]

I had a girl creep on me to the point I lost control and lost it on her through PM. She was just so creepy. She copied my Facebook posts and selfies almost identically and it was just so bizarre. Most of her FB posts she was contradicting herself. She had a personality disorder that involved mirroring but I personally think she just enjoyed getting under my skin. I finally just deleted her. Some people are just creepers who don’t always realize that they are the issue.

The main issue I had with her was that she lied about being trans for attention for about a month.