[~Christina]

Hey hey !

I joined a Facebook Bipolar group. I have NEVER seen such a group of people blame
Everything on their Bipolar in my life. They use Bipolar as an excuse for everything! So many are hate filled abusive monsters and expect the world to accept it’s just “part of Bipolar and baby them” Like what ????

I just have to say every single one of you is a Rockstar ! Yes we all struggle but we try to improve our life’s for ourselves certainly but also for loved ones.

Rock on

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[Moose72]

I'd UNjoin that Facebook group asap.

[*Beth*]

~**~**~* I love us! *~**~*~

[HALLIEBETH87]

You already know I left that group! I got tired of people not understanding that mental illness is not an excuse for everything.

[Nammu]

Oh I hate that when people do that. And maybe I’m too cynical but I suspect most of the people who act that way are really borderline and tricked their providers into saying it’s bipolar. I roll my eyes. They want the whole world to cave to their “feeling” as if a feeling were fact and reality. They prick their finger and they have a bleeding disorder and want the whole world to to be wrapped. They feel “bad” so the whole world should give them a pass for having a temper tantrum cause gosh, they’re bipolar! Absolutely no responsibility on their part. Yeah I met some in the hospitals I’ve been in.

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by Nammu

Oh I hate that when people do that. And maybe I’m too cynical but I suspect most of the people who act that way are really borderline and tricked their providers into saying it’s bipolar. I roll my eyes. They want the whole world to cave to their “feeling” as if a feeling were fact and reality. They prick their finger and they have a bleeding disorder and want the whole world to to be wrapped. They feel “bad” so the whole world should give them a pass for having a temper tantrum cause gosh, they’re bipolar! Absolutely no responsibility on their part. Yeah I met some in the hospitals I’ve been in.

Nammu you are spot on !!!!

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[~Christina]

The group is like a train wreck and that’s the only reason I haven’t left it LOL

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[Nammu]

Lol, cheap entertainment! Lol 😂

[Soupe du jour]

I've also seen similar groups with such tendencies. Also online support groups where the members rarely supported each other, but just posted about their own issues/grievances. When it comes to the latter, I understand that when we're in crises, rough/stressful, or busy times, we NEED more than we can give. However, when all members ever do (ever) is need and not give, the group eventually suffers. I agree, Christina, that this online group is far better than most in terms of positive/helpful interactions and support. Not to say that there aren't hiccups here and there for all, or members that disagree or feel left out. No such place is perfect.

So many online bipolar forums have died out or become ghost towns in past years. Even quite significant ones! I'm glad My Support Forums lives on.

I've felt similar as Nammu about certain members on forums exhibiting BPD type symptoms. Such members' emotional dysregulation can be intensely stress-inducing and push members away or trigger. Also cases where certain members developed near obsessions with other members. Then when they perceived rejection, they expressed fury. Very characteristic of BPD and not as much BP.

[cbeans]

I was in two bipolar groups on FB and ended up getting PMs from people I didn't know wanting to friend me. It weirded me out and was part of why I left FB a couple of weeks ago. Have not missed it!

[~Christina]

Originally Posted by Nammu

Lol, cheap entertainment! Lol

Yasssss lol

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[~Christina]

Originally Posted by Soupe du jour

I've also seen similar groups with such tendencies. Also online support groups where the members rarely supported each other, but just posted about their own issues/grievances. When it comes to the latter, I understand that when we're in crises, rough/stressful, or busy times, we NEED more than we can give. However, when all members ever do (ever) is need and not give, the group eventually suffers. I agree, Christina, that this online group is far better than most in terms of positive/helpful interactions and support. Not to say that there aren't hiccups here and there for all, or members that disagree or feel left out. No such place is perfect.

So many online bipolar forums have died out or become ghost towns in past years. Even quite significant ones! I'm glad My Support Forums lives on.

I've felt similar as Nammu about certain members on forums exhibiting BPD type symptoms. Such members' emotional dysregulation can be intensely stress-inducing and push members away or trigger. Also cases where certain members developed near obsessions with other members. Then when they perceived rejection, they expressed fury. Very characteristic of BPD and not as much BP.

Soupe you summed it up perfectly ! You always can put into words a situation from many angles. Thank you Thank you Thank you

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[~Christina]

Originally Posted by cbeans

I was in two bipolar groups on FB and ended up getting PMs from people I didn't know wanting to friend me. It weirded me out and was part of why I left FB a couple of weeks ago. Have not missed it!

Yeah see I don’t want any one on one communication on the Facebook pages either. Numerous people have asked and I’ve politely turned it down and flat ignore any one who does DM me.

Here I’m fine with anyone contacting me day or night.

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[bizi]

I post on neurotalk.
We used to have10 people who regularly posted

over the years that number is down to 2or 3 and an occasional pop in.
It is depressing to see the forum get small and smaller.I try to not take it personally.
But one wonders.
bizi

[Shoe]

I need to start hanging out here also. I am not sure where I belong but I guess this is a good place to communicate with other people. I have never become a member of facebook. I had a half a dozen psychotic episodes when I was in my 20's but then in my 30's they went away without any meds. I never did like taking those meds. I have some ativan that I got from my regular doctor but I hardly ever take one.
I have a daughter in her 30's that takes meds for bipolar. I hate seeing her with some of the side effects but she says she needs to take them and I try and support her the best I can. She has 2 kids from 2 different guys but they both ghosted. She has a live-in boyfriend now that seems pretty nice and good for her and the kids but I am not too sure how long it will last.
When you guys mentioned taking responsibility it seemed pretty relevant for my daughter and I. Whenever she gets any money she just blows through it. I keep trying to explain to her that I am not going to be around forever and she needs to try and become more responsible with how she spends her money.
Well Sunday Morning is about to come on and I need to watch that. Happy Mother's Day to all you mothers here.

[Nammu]

Welcome back shoe.

[*Beth*]

Originally Posted by Shoe

I need to start hanging out here also. I am not sure where I belong but I guess this is a good place to communicate with other people. I have never become a member of facebook. I had a half a dozen psychotic episodes when I was in my 20's but then in my 30's they went away without any meds. I never did like taking those meds. I have some ativan that I got from my regular doctor but I hardly ever take one.
I have a daughter in her 30's that takes meds for bipolar. I hate seeing her with some of the side effects but she says she needs to take them and I try and support her the best I can. She has 2 kids from 2 different guys but they both ghosted. She has a live-in boyfriend now that seems pretty nice and good for her and the kids but I am not too sure how long it will last.
When you guys mentioned taking responsibility it seemed pretty relevant for my daughter and I. Whenever she gets any money she just blows through it. I keep trying to explain to her that I am not going to be around forever and she needs to try and become more responsible with how she spends her money.
Well Sunday Morning is about to come on and I need to watch that. Happy Mother's Day to all you mothers here.

Hi Shoe, a happy Mother's Day to you, too. Welcome! Jump right in to the check-in thread on this board if you want to. I promise - we're a terrific bunch

[bizi]

yes welcome back!
bizi

[Shoe]

Thanks for the welcome back guys. I decided I need to try and work on my social skills some. I guess my social skills are good enough but I just don't use them that much. That gives me some peace but that is probably no way to be. I'm lucky I have a wife but we don't do a lot of communicating. There is a language issue. Her English is kind of limited and my Samoan is even more limited. She is very social with her Samoan family and friends and also with her Samoan church which is all in Samoan. I just stay home a lot and watch TV but I do have a bicycle That I like to ride around every morning weather permitting. I have to watch out for the dogs though. They are a real problem down here but it kind of adds to the adventure. I am a retired SPED teacher but I like to identify as a modern day ( bargain) hunter/gatherer in that I like to look for different food items that are on sale and peddle them back to our apt. That helps give my life meaning now ;-)
Hope you guys all have a good week.

[Fuzzybear]

Welcome back

[~Christina]

Welcome back !!!!!

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[otroo]

Originally Posted by ~Christina

Hey hey !

I joined a Facebook Bipolar group. I have NEVER seen such a group of people blame
Everything on their Bipolar in my life. They use Bipolar as an excuse for everything! So many are hate filled abusive monsters and expect the world to accept it’s just “part of Bipolar and baby them” Like what ????

I just have to say every single one of you is a Rockstar ! Yes we all struggle but we try to improve our life’s for ourselves certainly but also for loved ones.

Rock on

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That is one ofvmy biggest things to PO is people who blame their diagnosis on why they act the way they do. I mean there are some that are legitimate but I have always gotten mad when people use a mental illness or even a drug addiction excuse. I am a bipolar recovering drug addict been clean for 24 years oh and I'm a convicted felon. Yes I was high when I tried to allude a police officer but it was my decision to drive high with a large amount of narcotics on me which I am luck I was able to dump it. But it was me I did this because I wanted to I mean no I did not want to be a addict but I tried it on my own no one forced me. It happens and the sooner you accept your own fault the faster you are off to recovery. It's not easy but it can be done. Lol quitting hard drugs was easier for me then quitting smoking lol.

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[~Christina]

Originally Posted by otroo

That is one ofvmy biggest things to PO is people who blame their diagnosis on why they act the way they do. I mean there are some that are legitimate but I have always gotten mad when people use a mental illness or even a drug addiction excuse. I am a bipolar recovering drug addict been clean for 24 years oh and I'm a convicted felon. Yes I was high when I tried to allude a police officer but it was my decision to drive high with a large amount of narcotics on me which I am luck I was able to dump it. But it was me I did this because I wanted to I mean no I did not want to be a addict but I tried it on my own no one forced me. It happens and the sooner you accept your own fault the faster you are off to recovery. It's not easy but it can be done. Lol quitting hard drugs was easier for me then quitting smoking lol.

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I think people who blame everything on Bipolar is partly why mental illness has such bad Stigma sometimes.

Kudos for you changing your life in a positive way that takes determination

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