[pinkcorr]

I haven't posted on this part of the board, I only joined this week and most of my posts are in the psychotherapy board. I kinda feel a bit left out, like no one knows me so they're not replying to my posts or summin like that. I know its dumb....but its a real feeling to me.

I'm also feeling really p***ed off with a freind right now, she hardly ever texts me back or emails me back. So I emailed her tonight and asked her why? Fell like an idiot for sending it but its been bugging me for ages.

Anyway Hello lol

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[shezbut]

I can understand the feeling of loneliness and as though no one cares. Many of us struggle with those emotions a lot.

You may want to try elaborating on your second paragraph. Have you been close friends for a long time and just recently she's backing off? Perhaps she's in a romance now (taking up some time & energy)? Or, maybe she's never into text messages. Would she rather talk on the phone? You can give her a call and talk with her. IMO, it's better: your words can be explained instantly, if she doesn't understand or if she's taking them the wrong way. Can't do that too easily through texts, in my old-fashioned opinion .

Just some ideas for you. Something to think about. When you post in Psych Central, try to post in a couple of applicable forums - like relationships, depression, general. Better chance of getting a quick response. Another tip: Be a little more descriptive. It's hard to see that this thing between you & your friend has made you really hurt. As soon as you make a statement blaguely describing your emotions, your very next "admits" to over-reacting. Those are counter-productive.

Please don't take this post as insults, just trying to help you look at your post differently. Hopefully, you will get more responses to your posts with my recommendation/s. Very best wishes to you!

Shez

[Lisa Michelle]

I can relate to your feelings, I often find it hard on this board. I stopped posting threads so much because of people not really replying, I still try to reply when I can to other people's threads though.... I just find this site a little triggering so I'm not around TOO often. But yeah basically I have felt the same way as you, I guess it's normal. Once you get to know people I guess it becomes easier? I'm not around enough to really get to know people unfortunately!

And with your friend I can also sort of relate. I'm VERY sensitive about that stuff, and if it's not just a one off then it must be really hard for you. I hope she gives you an answer. I'm sure it's nothing personal, she's probably just not that good with replying or... I don't know. Try not to think it's something to do with you though, if she's ignoring you it kind of means she's not really that friendly (?!)... if somebody ignores you so much maybe they don't deserve really being your friend. Wait for the explanation though, she may have a good reason or maybe you've overreacted (that's not a critisism, it happens, especially with me!!)

I hope you begin to settle and feel more welcome soon x
I only post in here and in the eating disorder forum so if you're in either of those I'll try to read and reply!

[pinkcorr]

Thank you Shez and Lisa

She's a friend not a close friend, she's very busy and she admits she's crap at keeping in touch lol. She actually text and apologised for not getting back to me. Thanks for the advice shez, I didn't take offence lol.

I'm waiting for one of the moderators to change my username as its made some people uncomfortable, so I'm really sorry for that. Once my new username is in use I will repost in the intro board. I only chose this username because its not something thats related to me online and its a lyric from a song on the soundtrack of one of my fav movies. But I'll be helena once holmes has changed it.

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