[flora_poste]

I seem to have this issue with questioning everything. My favorite quote is "there is no truth, there is only you and what you make the truth". This explains my mind so perfectly. It always seems to pop up in my own writing, even in my paintings (my profile pic is of my painting entitled: Questioning).
Everyone thinks differently and we live in a world of nothing but conflicting information and ideas. I have such a hard time wrapping my mind around it... hell, I have a hard time wrapping my mind around my own mind. Another favorite quote: "we don't see things as they are, we see things as we are." and it's true! I often catch myself projecting my perception of a situation onto other people to find out I was completely wrong. Like I'll blame someone for doing something or thinking something that I'm even more guilty of myself. Like when cheaters constantly accuse their partner of cheating.
I'm wondering, is this normal? Is questioning your reality just a natural human trait? Or is this just part of being borderline?

[shezbut]

Wow, flora poste, I'm impressed!

You are a very good artist and also quite wise. Your words are precisely what is taught through DBT. We are taught that we (humans) choose how to perceive react to the world around us. The wise mind uses both emotions and realism to make effective choices and be the best person that we can be.

All of the possibilities in this life is a lot.

Catching yourself projecting blame, recognizing it, is great! How you handle that perception is the key. Depending upon your perspective, you could look at the amazing possibilites in life and feel hopeful for the future. Life isn't black or white. It is complex, and it's great that you regularly notice this fact.

Personally, I'd recommend patting yourself on the back for being where you are. You're in a great spot. Perhaps challenging your perspective more often would help you feel more comfortable. I can't recommend any ideas after that, other than enjoying your work as an artist. Expressing your emotions can be very liberating. And the technique of expression often compels the viewer, with great appreciation. A win-win situation, imo.

Best wishes!

[FooZe]

Originally Posted by flora_poste

I'm wondering, is this normal? Is questioning your reality just a natural human trait? Or is this just part of being borderline?

I think of it as a talent. Of course, as with any other talent, you could use it to get yourself either into or out of difficulties.

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Wondering if something is "normal" has always gotten me into way more difficulties than it's gotten me out of.

[flora_poste]

Thanks! You both made me smile pretty big... and I sure haven't been smiling much Lately. It just gets frustrating sometimes when you just aren't sure what to believe, or if you should believe yourself! Maybe I just get too deep sometimes?? hehehe...
I am glad I'm making this transition in my life... 26 has been my year of epiphanies and resolutions, I'm finding. And (forgive me a cheesey moment), to quote Martha Stuart, "It's a good thing." ;-]

btw, what does DBT stand for?

[shezbut]

Originally Posted by flora_poste

btw, what does DBT stand for?

Sorry,. DBT = dialectic behavioral therapy

I'm happy to hear that our posts gave you a big smile. That is wonderful!

Fool Zero did make a good point too. All talents can be depended upon too much (like a person removes themself from society altogether, and struggles emotionally. Vincent Van Gogh is a good example of that characteristic, imo.)

[FooZe]

Originally Posted by flora_poste

btw, what does DBT stand for?

Dialectical Behavior Therapy, originally designed as an advanced treatment for BPD but now coming to be used for other conditions as well. Here are a couple of outside articles on it...

Dialectical Behavioral Therapy
DBT Self Help

... and a PC forum:

DBT Discussion and Support

We had a long and lively discussion of DBT last spring, sparked by a member who'd heard some scary-sounding things about it. I mention it only because it turned into one of my personal favorite threads:

DBT gives me PTSD

[flora_poste]

oh cool! I'll look into that. =]