[roxyanne1]

can someone help with some advice. My 14yr old grandaughter is showingsymptons of having BPD as i have, whats some ways of helping
the young ones. Ive done a DBT course would it be ok for me to help her with this or should it be someone other the family member,PLEASE HELP mother frantic.
Roxyanne1

[anna342]

I'm pretty sure I've heard that those under 18 aren't normally diagnosed with bpd, however this doesn't mean that she's not experiencing that same symptoms, I just thought I'd make you aware.

I think it's really important you get her to a psychiatrist for an assessment to see what's going on and where to move from here. The earlier something is done, the less likely things will take hold severely and for such a long time to come.

[ECHOES]

No, I would not recommend anyone besides a professional working with her. And, what helped you may not be what would be helpful for her.

The diagnosis isn't important. And BPD is about development and separating.
14 year olds face difficult times as they are moving away from childhood. It is a period of separating and becoming their own self. It can be stressful for them and for those they are very naturally and normally separating from. I've always thought that most teens would benefit from some help and support for their difficult times. Maybe some family therapy would be useful too.

[Beautifully_Broken]

I hate the sterotype of that just because you're a teenager it must just be a phase of some sort.

I've been mentally unstable all my life, and many have said "oh it's just a phase" "oh it's being a teenager", ha, I won't mention just how severe I've gotten, but that is NOT a phase, I am ill to this day & I will be for the rest of my life, and mental health illnesses are actually more common in children than people think, they are just ignored & down played & written off as "phases".

[Perna]

DBT tools are just tools and for anyone it might help! You are her parent, I'd share some things you have learned with her, see if they help her. I think it's your relationship with her that will help her through this period the most though.

[questionable]

Teenagers and children don't have fully developed personalities, so while other emotional and psychological problems are possible personality disorders cannot be diagnosed.

[Beautifully_Broken]

Just because they can't be diagnosed does not mean they do not exist.
I say the earlier it is diagnosed, (which can mean in children), the better, so then it can be treated earlier & more chances of coping/managing.

[ECHOES]

Diagnosis does not matter.
What matters is that a person is having difficulties in their lives and that there is help out there so those difficulties don't end up keeping a person from their goals, dreams, from enjoying life and thriving.

[callingforthesun]

help her identify her triggers.the more self-aware she is about her illness, the better. does she want to be helped?