[kelbelle]

hi i am new to this site and am looking to make some friends and find some support with my bpd. i am 29 years old and have been ill since i was 15 i'm so sick of suffering. i have a 12 year old son and am constantly worrying that i'm going to make him end up like me.

the thing i hate most about this illness is the lonliness i feel, i don't feel complete without a partner yet i can't keep one long because of the illness they can't cope with me. just recently broke up with someone yet again i'm blaming myself and feel worthless.my family find it hard to be around me when i'm ill and that hurts me alot.

i'm having therapy at the moment and it's helping a bit, can life get any better with bpd or am i stuck with it for life?

[jontank]

Hi. I am 29 also. I can relate, although I have no children. My case manager and close friends refuse to be around me until I get back on meds. the thing is that I'm not working at the moment, so I can't afford to see anyone.

[Claire89-2]

Therapy is very helpful. Stay with it for the long term and you'll feel better.

- Claire

Originally Posted by kelbelle

hi i am new to this site and am looking to make some friends and find some support with my bpd. i am 29 years old and have been ill since i was 15 i'm so sick of suffering. i have a 12 year old son and am constantly worrying that i'm going to make him end up like me.

the thing i hate most about this illness is the lonliness i feel, i don't feel complete without a partner yet i can't keep one long because of the illness they can't cope with me. just recently broke up with someone yet again i'm blaming myself and feel worthless.my family find it hard to be around me when i'm ill and that hurts me alot.

i'm having therapy at the moment and it's helping a bit, can life get any better with bpd or am i stuck with it for life?

[tryingtobeme]

Hi Kelbelle,

I am 32 have be diagnoses for 3 years now. I have a 17 month old son. Therpay and meds are the best thing for you. I would see if you T does DBT therapy. That is the best treatment for you us BPDer's. CBT can help also. My therapist and I work with both kind. We mix it up and it has worked well for me.

I do still have lonely, and down days. They don't last as long and the episodes don't hold on as long. It take a great deal going on the take me down the road of despare where I feel I have no way out. Before anything would set me off.

I am married, have been for 3 years. My husband as noticed a dramatice difference in me. I will admit the first 2 years, I didn't know what was happen. Even ended up in the mental ward due to trying to committ suicide. My husband thankfully stood by me.

There is someone out there that will love you for you and will be willing to stand by you as you work on getting better with BPD. He is out there, just seem to be harder to find. Focus on yourself and your son. I say as long as you give him all the love you can, you are doing your best.

PM if you ever need to talk in private. Take care.