[palemoss]

Okay, since the post about our good qualities and "you know you're BP when..." were just so darn amusing, I thought we could have another lighter post about some of our embarrassing moments and/or ridiculous regrets from our more intense BP phases.

I am not trying to be insensitive, but I firmly believe that time heals (almost) everything and in some cases what was so painful then can now be laughed at. Plus, universality and empathy are two of the most critical facets in therapy / healing process.

Anyway, CANNOT BELIEVE how ridiculous I was with seduction last year. I mean, literally all of my conversations with men (even the ones I knew I would never date or have sex with) were attempts to seduce. LOL. And I would say like some really lame things like reveal my "number of men" and pretend to be bisexual to appeal to men.

Can anyone relate? Would seduction fall under our manipulative ways?

I have, with no warning, hopped on a bus and headed to (at various times in my life) Phoenix, Memphis, Omaha, San Diego, and Dallas. Somebody would tick me off, and pffft at everybody, I'm outta here, you're never gonna see me again....

[palemoss]

wow. i can relate - i disappear and isolate myself when i get angry, and thus punish people with my absence. but not to that extreme!

[tattoogirl33]

Originally Posted by palemoss

Okay, since the post about our good qualities and "you know you're BP when..." were just so darn amusing, I thought we could have another lighter post about some of our embarrassing moments and/or ridiculous regrets from our more intense BP phases.

I am not trying to be insensitive, but I firmly believe that time heals (almost) everything and in some cases what was so painful then can now be laughed at. Plus, universality and empathy are two of the most critical facets in therapy / healing process.

Anyway, CANNOT BELIEVE how ridiculous I was with seduction last year. I mean, literally all of my conversations with men (even the ones I knew I would never date or have sex with) were attempts to seduce. LOL. And I would say like some really lame things like reveal my "number of men" and pretend to be bisexual to appeal to men.

Can anyone relate? Would seduction fall under our manipulative ways?

OMG!! I still do this!! And I just can't stop!! I don't know how to stop doing this but I know it causing me a lot of trouble!!

[palemoss]

Originally Posted by tattoogirl33

OMG!! I still do this!! And I just can't stop!! I don't know how to stop doing this but I know it causing me a lot of trouble!!

Seriously. I cannot even tell you how many guys I pretty much unconsciously seduced if I was even the slightest bit attracted to. Like, I knew I was making myself "come off" as slutty but at the same time I knew I was not actually going to sleep with them or anything. It was just my way to get some thrills - I guess you can say it is manipulation because at the end of the day I had a lot of men wanting to see me and get what I promised.

Lately, though, (and I am so glad) I've stopped because I realize how cruel it can be. Whether you are promising sex or to help someone out on a school project, wasting one's time getting their hopes up for nothing but your own satisfaction is wrong.