[palemoss]

i'm new here. been borderline, ****...all of my life. was not diagnosed until this year (i was mistakenly diagnosed as bipolar two years ago but never went on meds bc they scare me). not exactly a text book version of it but i've had my share of volitile push-pull relationships, attatchement-limerance anxiety, and substance abuse/self-injure issues.

anyway, i just wanted to get an idea of how other people cope with finding out that someone they used to date and really liked has moved on and found a new partner.

i have this horrible habit of internet "stalking" my past loves and it just kills me when i discover they have a new gf. that rush of anxiety, the scream, pacing, and barage of "whys" and overcompensating beliefs (i.e. "im more educated probably, cooler, prettier...")

how do you deal with it? is there a way?

[abaca01]

wow I do the same thing and feel the same way, I have no idea how to deal with it, the only thing that has helped me at all is telling myself everytime I go to facebook stalk that i know if i find anything its just gonna make me feel awful and throw me into a panic, so sometimes that helpes me to stay away from there page. Other then that I have no clue what to tell you. You're not alone though!

[palemoss]

totally you are right. it's like "dammit, i know this will trigger me!" i feel like we're alittle ocd when it comes to thinking about the past. but totally yes must remember it is a trigger. discipline.