[palemoss]

How can I stop? I want to stop feeling these intense emotions I have for this boy who I am dating. I know it will freak him out, but what ever happened to being genuine?

Why is being emotional and deep so stigmatized?

I used to think that my diagnosis was wrong, but now that I have started dating I realized that I just might be.

We just started dating and I feel:

that he should call, text, communicate w/ me everyday
tell me how amazing and beautiful I am all the time
he should not be in contact with any other girl
obsess about me
he should want to know everything about me

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the fact that he doesn't and hasn't makes me feel unwanted.... i just want to own him.

[lotusflames]

been there, done that.

dont have any way of telling you things that will help you stop the behaviour cos i still do it now and i've been with the same guy almost 10 years

[tattoogirl33]

OMG we are two of a kind haha.. I just (re)met a great man Saturday night, he told me right off the bat that he's only in the area for two weeks as he's on leave from the Military and he will be going over 2000 miles away to go home. So I invite him over to watch a movie the other night.. had a great time just hangin out and talking.. now I'm gettin stupid like a jealous little school girl and I don't know how to stop it!! I feel your pain palemoss... If you figure out any answers please let me know and I will do the same!

[hayward]

Originally Posted by palemoss

How can I stop? I want to stop feeling these intense emotions I have for this boy who I am dating. I know it will freak him out, but what ever happened to being genuine?

Why is being emotional and deep so stigmatized?

It is mostly stigmatized by people who do not feel that way. IMO, being emotional, as hard as it is, is preferable to being cold and uncaring.

I used to think that my diagnosis was wrong, but now that I have started dating I realized that I just might be.

Try to remember that a diagnosis does not define who you are, so don't take it too literally. Instead, look at your own individual qualities and deal with them the best you can, one day at a time. Otherwise you will let them rule your life.

We just started dating and I feel:

that he should call, text, communicate w/ me everyday
tell me how amazing and beautiful I am all the time
he should not be in contact with any other girl
obsess about me
he should want to know everything about me

The word "should" should be removed from the dictionary. Try this: what would you say to someone who said to you all of the things you just listed here?? Seriously, think about that. You are smarter than you think.

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the fact that he doesn't and hasn't makes me feel unwanted.... i just want to own him.

Owning someone else means owning more junk. No one needs more junk- we all have enough of our own. Don't be a hoarder of emotions!

[sarek]

Originally Posted by palemoss

We just started dating and I feel:

that he should call, text, communicate w/ me everyday
tell me how amazing and beautiful I am all the time
he should not be in contact with any other girl
obsess about me
he should want to know everything about me

___

the fact that he doesn't and hasn't makes me feel unwanted.... i just want to own him.

I have sought for this kind of relationship for so long. When I love, I love with such intensity that many people are not ready for that. I throw all of me into it.
I have finally found a girl who wants to have exactly this kind of relationship with me. She needs me to be the kind of guy you describe and I am only too happy to oblige her. And she gives at least as much as she takes.

But if someone acts differently it does not mean lack of love. It may mean inability to handle such intensity. But even more so, its also a matter of understanding each others love language. You should google that if you are unaware what it is, because for any kind of romantic relationship to work well it is very important to understand this.