"friends" ignoring me

For the last probably two months, some of my so called friends keep getting together, but i'm never invited. Worse is that my sister is one of them. I feel so unliked. So alone. I suck apparently.

sucks...hate that. it could just be a phase, and that in like a few weeks they will come crawling back to you, esp if another starts to be ostracized ....i would speak up but use a decent tone..

i think it's time to start making new/other friends, the more the better sometimes

Why not invite some of your friends to do something...we do have a tendency to act differently when we fear real or imagined abandonment...so go against this thought of being left out and include yourself by creating an activity friends can come to...

It hard to say whether its real or in your mind. Wish you luck though, we all need friends.

so not cool.. good luck!

(agrees with Direction)

Definitely not a fun experience, I go through it too...

Well, if ya want, you can fly down here and I will do something with ya! But seriously, it's not a fun thing just try not to let it get to you and try to make some more friends.

It hurts. I have been rejected too. Invite them or one of them to do something and if they aren't going to be nice then hang in there until you find a better friend. You will find them but sometimes it's lonely when you're looking for them. And internet friends are real friends too even though we can't hang out together. I'll be your friend.

I'd love to find friends who would accept me for who I am and don't expect me to always be happy. I'm not a very social person though due to fear of rejection when people find out more about me

A support group may provide some acceptance...check into DBSA, NAMI or other meetings locally.

It may also help you share with current friends as you test the waters about sharing in a group with people who have similar issues...

I struggle with this all the time. I feel like I'm a last resort friend, one they only call when they have no one else to do things with. Or I feel like I've really connected with someone and think we're close only to find out they have been getting together with others and never inviting me. The only close friends I have are my sisters because they get me and one also has bpd, so I can be myself around them.

Gosh I can relate to this so closely. Nicole, recently I had a woman befriend me and although I am normally extremely reluctant to get socially involved with people due to fear of rejection, I took a chance at being vulnerable and entered into the friendship. As soon as she got to know me a little better, she cut off our friendship in a very fast cruel manner and it left me devastated. She did the same thing to me your friends have done to you - organised social get togethers and purposefully excluded me. She even went as far as telling me the get togethers were cancelled when in actual fact, she still had everyone over for coffee and just chose to lie to me. It hurt terribly at first but now I am just angry and disgusted at the way she treated me. Some people are cowards and instead of being honest and saying, "Hey look, I understand you are dealing with BPD and I wish I could support you but I don't know how and it's overwhelming for me.", they take the wimps way out and just lie, avoid, cut off contact, etc. Nicole, their actions say more about who THEY are as people than it says about who YOU are as a person. Friendships and trust are extremely scary for me too but I am slowly learning how to trust my intuition when it comes to friends. I can get a sense for who I can trust and who I can't but it's still scary.

I must say I think it's pretty rough that your sister would attend get togethers knowing how bad it makes you feel, I would assume being your sister she would have the attitude of, "If my sister isn't good enough for you, then you're not good enough for me." But because I don't know your sister or the situation, I can't pass any real judgement.

I'm sorry you are going through this. It's very unfair.