[MDDBPDPTSD]

A family member is threatening to make a decision that will hurt her and many others around her, including me.

I am struggling with the stress of what she might do and trying to figure out what I should do.

Assuming she intends to go through with her planned action, I can fight her by taking her to court. This would most probably have some ugly side effects, as she would retaliate. It may even backfire and the courts may decide to do something that neither of us wants.

I could also try to just go along with her plan, stay in her relatively good graces, and hope she realizes the error of her ways. Honestly, I think if she goes ahead with her plan, it won't be long until it will be painfully obvious to her that she has made a mistake. The problem with this option is that it hurts innocent others too, as least for a time. Even so, with this option, I will still have some opportunityto influence the situation and perhaps help the innocent ones.

I do not want to enable this relative. I do not want to rescue her from her own decisions. I do want to rescue her unintended victims though.

I hate this. I hate being unable to help those I love. I hate seeing so clearly what others struggles are, knowing that mine are much harder for me to see. I hate not being trusted by this relative. She is so scared and so angry. She is lying to herself and denying the truth of the situation to make it seem like it will be OK. It won't be OK.

Can I just allow this to happen and not stop it?

I hate being human and flawed. UGH!

[Flooded]

I could also try to just go along with her plan, stay in her relatively good graces, and hope she realizes the error of her ways. Honestly, I think if she goes ahead with her plan, it won't be long until it will be painfully obvious to her that she has made a mistake. The problem with this option is that it hurts innocent others too, as least for a time. Even so, with this option, I will still have some opportunityto influence the situation and perhaps help the innocent ones.

I would do this because you keep your friends close but your enemies even closer

[Open Eyes]

Well you havent been specific about what she is threatening to do. No one can really suggest a possible method of how to deal with it and how it may hurt others if you cannot specify what IT is.

Open Eyes

[MDDBPDPTSD]

Thank you Flooded for your thoughts. I think you are right. It is not only the best plan to keep an eye on things, but after some reflection, I think it is the best plan so that I do not enable her and remove the consequences from her. I just hate it that others will share those consequences unfairly.

Open Eyes: I certainly understand your point. It is difficult to comment on a situation unless you know what the situation is. Unfortunately, because this is a public forum, I feel I can not elaborate. Thank you for your comments though.