[metismichele]

Okay- so my husband has been diagnosed as BPD. We have been together 13 years but only spouses for a year. He has had counselling since the second year that I knew him but a ton of behaviours won't stop, or even slow down. The police can't stop it-psychiatrists, doctors, etc keep trying but can't slow it down enough for me to get away. He tried suicide, his landlord called him in,( when we were broken up)- He has broken my bones, stalked me, threatened me and all the charges have been to no avail. He was to be committed a year and a half ago but there was no room for him (welcome to health care in my part of the world) so they released him. His Dr, the police checked on me every hour on the hour because they were afraid of what he might do. It is ridiculous-he is getting worse instead of better- Can you think of a way, other than for me to go into hiding & change my name..to get away?

[FooZe]

Hi metismichele, welcome to Psych Central!

I've been looking for sites that address protection from domestic violence. Here are a few links I've managed to find. If your part of the world is outside the US, some of the advice will still apply; you could also contact the sites to see if they can refer you to any for your area.

Controlling & Abusive Relationships (Stanford University)

Develop a Safety Plan (Center For Relationship Abuse Awareness)

Safety Planning (National Domestic Violence Hotline)

5 Ways To Escape An Abusive Relationship (Psych Central, reposted from YourTango)

Best of luck, and please stay safe.

[metismichele]

Thanks for the advice. It's difficult to deal with this and the support sure helps- I will check out the links today.I'll keep you posted.....

PS -sorry about forgetting the trigger icon. Thanks for adding it for me-

[summeryoga]

Please do anything and everything you can to be safe ... even if that means going into hiding. And please keep us updated. My heart goes out to you ... but get away from him, please.