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Jan 27, 2012 at 10:17 AM
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Is it just me or does it feel like everyone out there has ulterior motives?
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Jan 27, 2012 at 01:06 PM
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like I wanna be friends with you, but what I really want is sex?
No,, I don't have those kind of thoughts... lol I'm innocent.. lol.. sorry.. can't help it now.. my mind has warped.. |
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Jan 27, 2012 at 01:08 PM
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HAHAHAHAHA I have that way with people!
 LOL I warp minds regularly!And yes the sex thing and not.. but now i cant get off the topic of sex... damn! 
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Jan 27, 2012 at 02:09 PM
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That's part of being BPD. The paranoia....of course there are people out there with them...and then there are other people so unaware of their thoughts....that they have them, but would never admit to them....like my MIL!!!
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Jan 27, 2012 at 10:22 PM
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Haha i used to think that i was on the truman show at one point - nothing actually quite seemed real, no one was actually saying what they truly meant, it all felt staged and as you said - warped. Its got better now, of course people manipulate and have ulterior motives, but thats their issue and unless its directly affecting me, i try and leave the issue well and truly alone otherwise it just feeds more and more into the paranoia. Good luck.
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Jan 28, 2012 at 01:24 AM
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Oh, but they do have ulterior motives. All of them...everyone of them.
I still think that way.  Experience has taught me that there are ulterior motives. Be on the look out for it...cause it's there. I live a vigilant life looking for that motive. I even argued this 'fact' with a psychiatrist once knowing that I was right. I do not know how to stop thinking this way at all. I think it keeps me safe. |
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Jan 28, 2012 at 12:31 PM
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Jan 28, 2012 at 01:51 PM
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My sister and I just had this conversation. I truly believe there is a pay off for everyone and their motives regarding every aspect of everyday living. I mean you don't eat if you won't get some sort of pay off. I don't speak to people when I don't feel like speaking to them, doesn't matter that I don't know that they are bawling at the constant ringing on their phone to not get an answer to me. Everyone does what they want, when they want and how they want and if they do a good thing for someone else, it is not out of a pure thoughtless act of kindness, there is some pay off for them...everyone is selfish and self-serving. That is my take on life. It seems a little pessimistic and I am not generally that pessimistic, but on this topic this is the only thing that makes sense.
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Jan 28, 2012 at 01:54 PM
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I struggle with paranoia and thinking the other has ulterior motives.
I am trying to just be more aware of it happening now, so I can see that 99% of the time I was wrong about their motives. I am beginning to be able to question my thoughts when they begin to go in that direction. |
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Jan 29, 2012 at 11:49 PM
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Yeah. They definately do. and alot of the time they are completely unaware of their ulterior motives. and it kinda sucks when its someone you care about and you ask them about it and they dont know what you mean but its like so obvious to you cause u have all this psych background .. yeah
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Jan 30, 2012 at 05:35 AM
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I don't trust anyone when I first meet them. I am always on alert for that person who's motive is to cause me harm of some kind.
But every now and then I meet someone who I trust and then I end up wondering why and then I go back to being on guard. I just try to not let it get out of hand. I know the problem lies with me not them. __________________ Success in not final; Failure is not fatal; It is the courage to continue that counts. Winston Churchill 
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Jan 30, 2012 at 08:14 AM
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A couple of months ago I posted something about my then-current boyfriend on another site. It was basically a list of all my paranoias about him. Then at the end, I said, "But I will never allow him to get close enough to hurt me". He disappeared the very next day (Although I managed to confirm he's still alive). So I became paranoid he was spying on me (he wasn't from the site but he knew it and my stagename)! To this day, I still don't know if any or all of this was justified and true, or just all in my head. It sucks.
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