i actually wanted to use it on my facebook- my friend anna had it on her status, but before i could copy it, she lost it and now i don't have it

so does anyone of you have it?

i want to use it as my status- but rework some of it so it's slightly diffrent

thanks...

No...don't have it. Could be kinda fun to come up with our own list though.
I'll contribute and if others think it's worthwhile they can add to it.
"You're crazy."
"What did you say again?"
"I'm leaving you."

((((Shattered)))) platitudes and cliches are the worst!

(i think you will find what you are looking for if you research it exactly as you wrote it).

Originally Posted by Rose Panachée

((((Shattered)))) platitudes and cliches are the worst!

(i think you will find what you are looking for if you research it exactly as you wrote it).

i don't find it.. that's what i did type in to the search but just got lots of pages on borderline.

will keep looking though.. really want it for my status- but as i said, i want to rework it so it looks slightly diffrent

[Stormy Seas]

Not sure if your looking for the list or asking What not to say to a BDP person .....
I get this question a lot ..
Are you really that upset over such a small thing ? UGH ...YES !

[Stormy Seas]

http://borderlinelife.tumblr.com/pos...o-someone-with
? I'm not sure if this will come out or even what you are looking for ?

If i had one it would say: 1) you're selfish 2) you're manipulative 3) stop being so damned emotional 4) just calm down it will all be alright 5) just let it go 6) why must you be so needy? 7) im going away for a bit 8) you need to stop spending so much money 9) im not sure BPD even exists 10) im sure if you ignore it it will go away.

[shortandcute]

Originally Posted by shattered sanity

i actually wanted to use it on my facebook- my friend anna had it on her status, but before i could copy it, she lost it and now i don't have it

so does anyone of you have it?

i want to use it as my status- but rework some of it so it's slightly diffrent

thanks...

maybe we can create our own list-oh i guess you guys already started it--lol

you're self centered
you're an emotional cripple
you just hate men
you're manipulative
are you schizophrenic?
you're a liar
you're only acting this way because you're living in sin
you don't have a right relationship with God
if you would just pay your tithes to the church, you wouldn't have all these problems
you're a phony
don't tell anyone you're feeling that way-it'll make me look bad

Originally Posted by bb2023

9) im not sure BPD even exists .

My husband's favorite one. He says depending on how you interpret the traits, ANYONE can have it.

[shortandcute]

you're just feeling sorry for yourself
you just went through a lot, that's all it is
the doctor is getting incentives by pushing meds on you

[Flooded]

Originally Posted by shortandcute

maybe we can create our own list-oh i guess you guys already started it--lol

you're self centered
you're an emotional cripple
you just hate men
you're manipulative
are you schizophrenic?
you're a liar
you're only acting this way because you're living in sin
you don't have a right relationship with God
if you would just pay your tithes to the church, you wouldn't have all these problems
you're a phony
don't tell anyone you're feeling that way-it'll make me look bad

If someone said anything in relation religion to me, they would certainly know I had issues after I'd finished with them!

[BrokenNBeautiful]

I have some of my own that were said to me:

1) You are incapable of love.

2) You don't deserve to share the air with decent people.

3) You are too ****ed up for a relationship.

4) You can't even make friends.

5) I can't have an intelligent conversation with you.

6) Is there anything I can say to you that won't upset you?!

7) Why do I bother with you?

8) You are so beautiful, why do you break people's hearts?

9) You're better at (f word)-ing and washing dishes than at anything else.

10) All you ever talk about/think about is yourself.

11) No one will ever understand you. The only friend you will ever make is with a professional therapist/doctor.

12) the classic: You manipulate!

[BrokenNBeautiful]

I forgot one:

13) You're only trying to get attention when you SH or talk about su***de. Or cry. Or show ANY emotion.

[BrokenNBeautiful]

14) You don't need therapy, just a good kick in the *****.

15) You're an attention-seeking w____.

I will probably think of more.

Billi

1. Did you take your meds?
2. You're over-sensitive.
3. I'm leaving. (especially when the intention wasn't to leave but to get a rise out of the BPD)
4. This is your fault.
5. Extreme silent treatment (ok it's not something you say but do) and not acknowledging the BPD person is in the room and even talking to you.
6. Talking to others about the BPD person, right in front of them, in a bad light.

Ok I can't come up with ten right now but some of those count as "2" for me haha.

Is it that time of the month again?

Why do you have to blow things out of proportion?

Whoa, someone didnt take their meds this morning.

Why can't you just be normal?

Aw, not this again...

I think we should see other people.

Can we talk about this later?

[SillyKitty]

You're being irrational again (every time any emotion other than pure bliss is expressed).

[LizzieVale]

My friend:

Your such a drain on me. Quit bringing me down and do what I told you to do. Then she proceeds to give me a huge list of things to do that she "thinks" will make me feel better.

Then when we next talk to each other she goes through her list and checks off what I've actually done!!!!

I feel like telling her to "quit telling me what to do"!

She acts as though she's my therapist.

I DONT need another therapist I need a friend!

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

1. Did you take your meds?
2. You're over-sensitive.
3. I'm leaving. (especially when the intention wasn't to leave but to get a rise out of the BPD)
4. This is your fault.
5. Extreme silent treatment (ok it's not something you say but do) and not acknowledging the BPD person is in the room and even talking to you.
6. Talking to others about the BPD person, right in front of them, in a bad light.

Ok I can't come up with ten right now but some of those count as "2" for me haha.

My mom did the extreme silent treatment on several occasions growing up when I did things that hurt her. That hurt me more than just about anything. And now my husband doesn't understand why I insist on repeating myself when I say something and he doesn't respond. Go figure.

[BrokenNBeautiful]

no one will ever want you.

[shortandcute]

Originally Posted by stratocaster

Is it that time of the month again?

Why do you have to blow things out of proportion?

Whoa, someone didnt take their meds this morning.

Why can't you just be normal?

Aw, not this again...

I think we should see other people.

Can we talk about this later?

Wow! I've had those things said to me. My sister's favortie one was the thing about "that time of month." But she wouldn't even ask, she would just say, "You're just on your period."

Originally Posted by shattered sanity

i actually wanted to use it on my facebook- my friend anna had it on her status, but before i could copy it, she lost it and now i don't have it

so does anyone of you have it?

i want to use it as my status- but rework some of it so it's slightly diffrent

thanks...

I can make up my own easily enough.

1: I love you
2: I hate you
3: leave me alone
4: it's your fault
5: it's still your fault
6: put the axe down
7: take care
8: you did a bad job
9: any kind of road abuse
10: you shoulda tried harder!

alternative list

1: sorry I wasn't listening
2: I don't care
3: I'm leaving
4: you won't hurt yourself!?
5: "nothing"
6: still "nothing"
7: you are crazy
8: get a life!
9: it's not that hard
10: go ahead and kill yourself see if I care?

...but I think the worst of all is..:

1: nothing
2: nothing
3: nothing
4: still nothing
5: crappy texts
6: more crappy texts
7: ****** e-mails
8: more ****** e-mails
9: weird things that the behaviour don't match
10: and then just nothing

in this modern sophisticated idiotic world just prolongs the borderline agony!

hundreds of years ago I woulda' had my chopped off head smiling my pirate ship burned to the sea bed my blood spilled by others with pride.

the emotionally superb are squeezed out of existence in this instant gratification world I hate it!

by the time others get upset it's too late and maybe they never will!

dumbasses!

DM

Originally Posted by billi_leli

4) You can't even make friends.

5) I can't have an intelligent conversation with you.

10) All you ever talk about/think about is yourself.

12) the classic: You manipulate!

It's a great list Billi, but I've quoted the best ones. My favorite (for lack of a better word) is about friends. my ex even went so far as to say things like "at least I have friends...real friends in the real world." that always stings the most. (I'm also an extreme social phobe)

thanks for your ideas monkey.... came in a bit too late unfortunately.

the lovely rose sorted me out.

*grins*