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Old Sep 12, 2012, 03:46 PM
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thanks for your ideas monkey.... came in a bit too late unfortunately.

the lovely rose sorted me out.

*grins*
ah!

well there's another one

1: thanks but .....unfortunately


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Old Sep 12, 2012, 05:25 PM
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...but I think the worst of all is..:

1: nothing
2: nothing
3: nothing
4: still nothing
5: crappy texts
6: more crappy texts
7: ****** e-mails
8: more ****** e-mails
9: weird things that the behaviour don't match
10: and then just nothing

in this modern sophisticated idiotic world just prolongs the borderline agony!

hundreds of years ago I woulda' had my chopped off head smiling my pirate ship burned to the sea bed my blood spilled by others with pride.

the emotionally superb are squeezed out of existence in this instant gratification world I hate it!

by the time others get upset it's too late and maybe they never will!

dumbasses!

DM
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Old Sep 12, 2012, 05:29 PM
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I like this list!
the lists are endless personal and accurate for all of us here.

ther is no "top ten list"
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Old Sep 13, 2012, 06:32 PM
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Here's another one:

when will you ever learn how to get along with others? You will never amount to anything as long as you don't.

B.
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Old Sep 14, 2012, 07:09 PM
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You need an attitude adjustment.

I hope you're proud of what you've done.
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Old Sep 16, 2012, 03:56 PM
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You're being irrational again (every time any emotion other than pure bliss is expressed).
Oh, I hear ya on that one! My oldest sister and her husband were my legal guardians for my last two years of high school, and I got that kind of caca from them all the time! My sister has some issues too; I ended having to do everything because she couldn't even get out of bed for days at a time (depression). When she could manage to get out of bed, she was always scowling, angry, having meltdowns, etc. But I was not allowed to not be cheerful EVER!!!! If I did not have a constant smile on my face, or did not act like I was having an orgasm whenever they bought something they couldn't afford from the swapmeet, I was accused of having an attitude, being rebellious, being "up to something," talking about them behind their backs, planning on running away, keeping secrets from them, having a "sneaky look on my face," being an emotional cripple, or they would threaten to send me back to my abusive mother, or make me move in with my other sister (they sure changed their minds when they needed something done), ot try to force me to marry someone I couldn't stand just to get me out of the house.
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Old Sep 16, 2012, 10:28 PM
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hahaha, 'or did not act like I was having an orgasm'..bhahaha. thanks for that short
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Old Sep 16, 2012, 11:04 PM
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Oh, I hear ya on that one! My oldest sister and her husband were my legal guardians for my last two years of high school, and I got that kind of caca from them all the time! My sister has some issues too; I ended having to do everything because she couldn't even get out of bed for days at a time (depression). When she could manage to get out of bed, she was always scowling, angry, having meltdowns, etc. But I was not allowed to not be cheerful EVER!!!! If I did not have a constant smile on my face, or did not act like I was having an orgasm whenever they bought something they couldn't afford from the swapmeet, I was accused of having an attitude, being rebellious, being "up to something," talking about them behind their backs, planning on running away, keeping secrets from them, having a "sneaky look on my face," being an emotional cripple, or they would threaten to send me back to my abusive mother, or make me move in with my other sister (they sure changed their minds when they needed something done), ot try to force me to marry someone I couldn't stand just to get me out of the house.

Isn't it lovely not to be treated like a feeling, breathing, human being?

Billi
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Old Oct 04, 2012, 07:19 PM
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Not sure if your looking for the list or asking What not to say to a BDP person .....
I get this question a lot ..
Are you really that upset over such a small thing ? UGH ...YES !
Did you resist the idea that you had BPD initially?
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Old Oct 05, 2012, 04:54 PM
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"Now what's the matter?"

"Why don't you smile more often?" (bonus points if they actually put their fingers in the corners of your mouth and try to pull them upward)

"You need help!" (said in a tone that makes the real meaning crystal clear)
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Old Oct 05, 2012, 09:46 PM
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the one i hate to hear the most is "u r so needy"
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Old Oct 06, 2012, 02:37 AM
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"The more you talk, the more trouble you are. So shut up."

Another thing that was said to me. I shut down for days.
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Old Oct 06, 2012, 03:26 AM
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If i had one it would say: 1) you're selfish 2) you're manipulative 3) stop being so damned emotional 4) just calm down it will all be alright 5) just let it go 6) why must you be so needy? 7) im going away for a bit 8) you need to stop spending so much money 9) im not sure BPD even exists 10) im sure if you ignore it it will go away.
Oh yes the statements that I put in bold get to me a lot and I must add these two that I hate when people say to me, here we go again you are seeing things in black and white. And you are too damn sensitive.
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Old Oct 06, 2012, 10:32 AM
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I'm too sensitive and being needy. Even saying those makes me feel bad. Yeah i'm sensitive but needy? I swear everyone seems to need me! But then again that takes us to us typically surrounding ourselves with people worse off than us emotionally.
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Old Oct 06, 2012, 04:04 PM
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My husband's favorite one. He says depending on how you interpret the traits, ANYONE can have it.
Yes, I believe it is a rare person who does not have a single BPD trait to some extent. 'We' just happen to have them ALL to the extreme. Push somebody to their limits by neverending chronic emotional and/or physical abuse and I think we all have the potential to 'be' borderline.

Oh and a few beauties I've had to endure over the past few years:

-Stop being such a victim.
-I don't believe it's THAT bad.
-You've just got a lot on your plate.
-Do you think you're the only one who ever went through a (insert abusive situation here)?
-It's your fault so just SUCK IT UP.
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Old Oct 06, 2012, 04:51 PM
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'You think you have it worse than everyone else'
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Old Oct 06, 2012, 11:38 PM
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"Never listen."

"never think about others"

"selfish" YEP.

"attention-seeking (bad, anti-woman word)"

Carol
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