[Smurf&Turf]

i was trying to have a conversation with someone but they weren't responding so i smashed a plate against the wall.

don't worry. i cleaned it up.

what's funny is when i first felt the impulse to do it, i suppressed it.

don't know whether this is a good enough reason to start seeing my T again. how can you tell when you're gonna start going off the rails?

[roads]

Um, yeah ... There are lots of possible ways to react to someone basically ignoring you, but smashing a plate on the wall (& good on you for cleaning it up!) would definitely rank much closer to "over the top" than to "middle of the road."

I'd re-up for some T time. Short-term maybe, if otherwise you've been fine. I'm especially curious why, if your initial impulse was to suppress the rage, did you choose to let it fly? Or was it a fully-free choice?

It it was a conscience choice, why you rejected it may be important. If your unconscience made the choice for you, then I'd say your derailing already.

Just my take.

Roadie

[Smurf&Turf]

Originally Posted by Roadie

Um, yeah ... There are lots of possible ways to react to someone basically ignoring you, but smashing a plate on the wall (& good on you for cleaning it up!) would definitely rank much closer to "over the top" than to "middle of the road."

I'd re-up for some T time. Short-term maybe, if otherwise you've been fine. I'm especially curious why, if your initial impulse was to suppress the rage, did you choose to let it fly? Or was it a fully-free choice?

It it was a conscience choice, why you rejected it may be important. If your unconscience made the choice for you, then I'd say your derailing already.

Just my take.

Roadie

i have nooo idea.

but i feel funny. maybe i should make an appointment ASAP.

[athena2011]

Originally Posted by Smurf&Turf

i was trying to have a conversation with someone but they weren't responding so i smashed a plate against the wall.

don't worry. i cleaned it up.

what's funny is when i first felt the impulse to do it, i suppressed it.

don't know whether this is a good enough reason to start seeing my T again. how can you tell when you're gonna start going off the rails?

Ironically, I think the problem is that you suppressed it. For me, suppression usually allows the rage to build, rather than dissipate. I think the solution is to address the problem with the other person, as calmly as possible...in words. Unresponsive people drive me up the wall. Now when somebody is like that, I try to switch to a commanding, no-nonsense voice, a little louder than usual but not yelling and first of all say something like "HELLO, IS ANYBODY THERE?" or something like that. Or try to figure out what's got their attention and help them deal with it and get back to the present...with me.

And yes...going back to a T for this would probably help a lot.

Did you ask why they weren't responding?Was the conversation you were wanting to conduct of great importance?I seldom express anger except in the defense of another individual,or when there is a very direct attack on me & I don't act out,I act in,so I am not good at advising,but,I was curious how it really got to where you rose to such a level of frustration?Was it a recurring issue?Hope you feel better.