Letting go of anger

I have a hard time letting go of past hurts from co-workers comments and actions. I think I am too blunt at times and when I hold on to my anger it interferes with my job proformance. Right now I feel I am not a good person and do not know how to get along with others. I try to be nice but it is hard when your so angry.

Did you tell them they hurt you? Maybe your 'hard time letting go' comes from not dealing with the problem, just burying it and letting it fester. Of course addressing it directly with them poses problems too. You have to keep your emotions in check so you are 'conveying information' rather than attacking. I run into both problems. But calmly communicating how I've been hurt...works quite well when I can do it.

It is too late to confront these people because it happened so long ago.......I think if I did they would not remember and I doubt they would care at all. I think what bothers me most is that I beleive these comments, especially the ones from my boss. I just need to let go & accept some people say ignorant things and do not think of the impact or do not care because of their own low-self-worth.

Well, I suppose some people are just bullies. And yes, bullies usually have low self worth. The only way I can see to deal with these kinds of people is to have as little contact as possible with them. Sometimes that's impossible unless you completely leave the environment you are in. But perhaps you should think of that as an option. Can you be transferred to another office? Change employers entirely? Just to accept mean comments day in and day out does not sound like a recipe for getting rid of anger or hurt.

Sounds like a rather toxic work environment to me ... Not good for emotional well-being ... And, can quite possibly start impacting physical well-being too, because the body will eventually turn on itself when under too much unnecessary stress ...

Sorry you're having to endure this ... Not an easy place to be ... Especially in today's job market ...

Sincerely,
BrokenCloud

I have similar issues with letting things go. I am sorry to hear about your co-workers and your struggle. I have not learned how to overcome this. I wish I had something substantive to offer, some possible resolution. I do not. I can say that you are not alone. Somethings that happened decades ago, I have yet to get over. <<<hugs>>>

I wrote about my issues with this on my blog, under rage and forgiveness. You have to do it for your own health. It sucks, but it all ends up being on you to forgive, and move on. Read my blog if you have time.