[BrokenNBeautiful]

On another site for recovery I got told I am "passive aggressive".

I don't know if it was me or him.

He said that my question (I had asked him why he moved a post to another forum (not here, at a recovery board). I had said, "Why did you move it?" I did not call him names, I was NOT abusive.

I told him I had not known where to put it (the post) and he thought that was "passive"?!

What?!

Is it me or him?

I replied that I had a right to ask a question.

I replied that I honestly did not know where to put it.

I don't know how to talk to people!

Billi

[Fran61]

Was this observation/opinion based on past interpretations or solely on this incident? Seems a bit over the top, if you ask me.
Fran

[BrokenNBeautiful]

Originally Posted by Fran61

Was this observation/opinion based on past interpretations or solely on this incident? Seems a bit over the top, if you ask me.
Fran

I am sorry, was his observation over the top or was my behavior? I want to make sure I understand your answer. thanks.

I wanted to ask him if it was about me or about my behavior. I have a feeling he was the same person who might have had to delete a post last year because of it being "controversial".

So I don't know if it was about his issues with me or just about what I did.

I don't know.

I don't think I really did anything wrong. Just a question and kind of a defense of mine about "I did not know where to put my post. Was it inappropriate?" kind of like that. I dn't know if he got angry with me for questioning his "authority" as mod or what. He didn't even explain how it was "passive aggressive", just highlighted what I said and told me to "work on this".

Of course that made me even more defensive. I replied that I had a right to ask a questino, all he had to do was answer it, and that I honestly did not know where to put my post.

thanks,

Billi

[cboxpalace]

If in the original post you had put something like ** I"m not sure if this is the correct forum to post ** that is not passive.. It's stating you're not sure, and it's ok to be moved to the correct forum if needed.

since you didn't include it, and it was moved and then you asked why, and followed that up with "I had a right to ask a question"... I still don't think that is passive, but he could perceive it as you being defensive...which it sounds like he did...

either way.. I don't think you did anything wrong really, and at best it was just a misunderstanding..

best
-cbox

i havent found any other forum as supportive and lovely as this one

[BrokenNBeautiful]

Originally Posted by cboxpalace

If in the original post you had put something like ** I"m not sure if this is the correct forum to post ** that is not passive.. It's stating you're not sure, and it's ok to be moved to the correct forum if needed.

since you didn't include it, and it was moved and then you asked why, and followed that up with "I had a right to ask a question"... I still don't think that is passive, but he could perceive it as you being defensive...which it sounds like he did...

either way.. I don't think you did anything wrong really, and at best it was just a misunderstanding..

best
-cbox

I could have been a little defensive. He moved my post without explaining why, so I did not know if I was inappropriate or just bumbling. I don't think I wrote ** there. I just wrote "I did not know where to put it." If he had said "defensive", it might have felt more like the criticism fit the crime. "Passive aggressive"? That really felt like he was attacking me or accusing me of something really intentional. And it wasn't.

btw, I did not hear from him again. I will see if I got kicked off his board.

thanks,

Billi

[BrokenNBeautiful]

Originally Posted by _frogslegs_

i havent found any other forum as supportive and lovely as this one

Me neither.

Billi

[3little.birds]

From what you are saying this sounds direct, if anything.. Not passive..?

[CastlesInTheAir]

I wonder if the guy knows what passive agression is?

you asked a clear question "why did you move my post" (that's all you said correct?)

if anything the other guy seems more passive agressive to me....

[wagneriansinger]

"why did you move my post" sounds pretty direct to me.

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[BrokenNBeautiful]

I had a feeling this man had his own issues.

I still have not heard from him.

I will see if I still have access to the boards there.

If not, I will deal with that. (better stay calm!) arrggg...

Billi

[BrokenNBeautiful]

Update:

I did not get kicked out.

I hope he reconsidered his position.

Oh, well, if he didn't.

At least he isn't arguing with me.

Billi